<p>I am an introvert, and I really dislike socialness. I'm back at my hotel and just feel like I made the biggest mistake. College is one big social scene it seems like. </p>
<p>I was supposed to be dorming in tower b tonight but after dinner I had enough so I gathered my things out of my room and left.
Now I feel as though I'm making a poor life decision. Most of the kids seem superficial... Just like high school... Which I also greatly disliked. "Bros" were talking about getting "fucked up and then bringing girls back to drink with them". I don't want to do that. I smoke weed and I drink but that's not something I just do with random people. I feel like everyone's so immature and ugh seriously I made a mistake. I gave it a shot with an open mind but at the end of the day I had no desire to be there. I had no desire to socialize. I withdrew while everyone else seemed to be having the time of their lives. I like pitt, I like the idea of education, I like the idea of growing myself as a person. I don't want the social aspect</p>
<p>I'm not sure what I want but I don't want to be here right now.</p>
<p>You gave something 8 hours. That isn’t giving it a chance. My son (who is at UMass) is not the most outgoing and had similar observation when he had summer orientation but he even gave it overnight. You can’t live your life in a cocoon.</p>
<p>College is definitely different than high school, at least eventually. What did you expect? You’re at an orientation with a bunch of kids that are essentially still in high school. You think 18 year-olds instantly change as soon as they cross their graduation stage or set foot on a college campus? That doesn’t happen anywhere. It’s the experiences that they go through that changes them.</p>
<p>One of the goals of these orientations is to help students to start to meet people. You won’t find people that share your interests in your hotel room, but I promise you they are out there. But the good news for you is that in four years from now most people won’t remember much from their orientation. It’s a minor blip on the scale of your college years.</p>
<p>But at some point. you’re going to have to venture outside of your comfort zone and try to meet people that share your values and interests, whether joining a club or academic groups, whatever. </p>
<p>My daughter was shocked when the residents of her Honors dorm vanished in search of parties on the first Friday. She called me with dismay as her perception was that the Honors dorm would be filled with people that wanted to spend their free time discussing important issues or just hanging out together. It took another few weeks to find the other students with similar views but she did and she’s glad that first weekend didn’t make her change her mind on the whole college experience. </p>
<p>Don’t worry - my son (senior next year) is an introvert as well and has had a great time at Pitt focusing on academics, research and a few clubs that catch his interest… He’s never even been to an off-campus party! He moved off campus after his first year in the dorm.</p>
<p>Hey! I went to that pittstart Lol I wish I had seen this sooner, I would’ve invited you to come hang out with us (lol granted some of the guys talked about getting girls, but hey that’s the life of college). Message me if you want. Are you part of the FB group? you can make some friends on there. </p>
<p>First, I hope it helps you if you realize there are a lot of other students like you, so you are not alone… College is an entirely new environment and a lot of students who had a hard time socializing in high school find it much easier in college…. It’s a new start for everyone. My daughter is also a very quiet person – when she was a freshmen, I suggested that she choose one of the eight person suites (she was in the honors dorm at Sutherland) so that she can immediately meet 7 other people. I was worried for her just like you are somewhat worried. But, this worked out perfectly for her… all 8 of them are still friends and are now all renting an apartment together in Oakland. And you also end up meeting more people through your roommates, and in your dorm, classes and clubs. In a big school, there are a lot of different types of people and a lot of different things to do and to join. </p>
<p>Second - regarding the implication that the residents in the honors dorm are partiers – my daughter is now a junior and still hangs out with a lot of people she met in her honors dorm AND THEY DO NOT DRINK OR DO DRUGS – they go to movies, bbq, walk in Shenley Park, go to a lot a sporting events both at school and professional teams, do pittarts, etc. etc. </p>
Lol I wish I had seen this sooner, I would’ve invited you to come hang out with us (lol granted some of the guys talked about getting girls, but hey that’s the life of college). Message me if you want. Are you part of the FB group? you can make some friends on there. </p>