<p>I arrived at school yesterday and already have problems socializing. My roomate does not arrive until tomorrow so I don't have someone I can simply grab and go places.</p>
<p>I wander the hallways and school and dont run into many people. When I do see people, I cant just walk up to them and bascially say "want to hang out?"</p>
<p>The thing that is bugging me is that all around me I see people who have already formed their groups and are hanging out. </p>
<p>Any tips?</p>
<p>Introduce yourself to people as you walk by them. Go to rooms nearby and knock then introduce your self. trust me, its not hard and I'm betting your kinda shy but do it and it'll work out.</p>
<p>I was wondering about the knocking on peoples doors but the only door I knocked on was that of my next door neighbors purely for the fact that I thought it was ok since we do share a bathroom.</p>
<p>Well you have to introduce yourself before you start hanging out with people. When you see people in a room just knock on the door and say 'hi, my name is blah i'm just seeing who is around; my roommate isn't here yet'. From there things fall into place, such as bringing up questions you might have concerning the college you are at, talking about things to do in whatever city/town you are in, etc. </p>
<p>Also figure out what your key interests are outside academics, and look for organizations to join. It's much easier to get to know a person when you both know you share a common interest.</p>
<p>And like Agentdemon brought up, introducing yourself to people as you both are walking down a hall works. Just stick your hand out and say hi. What are they going to do, ignore you and keep walking?</p>
<p>Also, are you out of state and at a public school or a private school with lots of instate students? That could explain why some people already seem to have their 'groups'. Don't worry about that too much, just be focused on what you have to do.</p>
<p>Im at FSU. While I already did meet up with a friend some high school, I dont want to have the same old friendships. I want something new.</p>
<p>One thing I dont like is that no one is allowed to leave thier doors opens, so its not as simple and simply looking into a room and saying hi. </p>
<p>Hopefully things will get slightly easier tomorrow when my room mate gets here. Im finding fewer and fewer reasons to venture out of my room.</p>
<p>you cant leave your door open? why? thats ridiculous!</p>
<p>Yeah I know. Supposidly it was because of theft issues.</p>
<p>so you cant leave the doors open even if you are in the room?</p>
<p>I believe so. Ive yet to see anyone with their door open.</p>
<p>that sucks. have you started classes yet?</p>
<p>You have to be able to leave your door open if you're in the room; I think you misunderstood the rule. Anyway, just knock on some doors and ask some people if they want to get something to eat.</p>
<p>i'm sure you will make friends once classes and clubs start...for now just say whats up to people in your dorm and maybe ask them if they want to do something...try to attend campus events that interest you</p>
<p>Ok, here's my advice:</p>
<p>You're probably not brave enough to do what other posters have advised, so I say do nothing. The only exception is hanging out with people with similar interests. But other than that, chillax.</p>
<p>You've got how many years of college left? No need to rush things.</p>
<p>Every Freshman there is in your situation.</p>
<p>"...all around me I see people who have already formed their groups and are hanging out."</p>
<p>In response to post #14</p>
<p>People in college don't form their groups on their first day before classes even begin. Like I said, it's most likely because they are tons of Florida students hanging out with their friends from HS or their area, and it just seems like they are already hanging out with some magical groups they just created with new people. Don't worry about that.</p>
<p>Also because you're just starting in an OOS school without many people that you know you're probably just more sensitive to noticing others who are 'already' hanging out with their friends.</p>
<p>Just say hey, and if it leads to a conversation, say you're OOS and are looking for something to do.. Girls may actually be more welcoming in this aspect. If people are playing cards ask if you can play? If all else fails wait until classes and join a frat?</p>
<p>It can't be super hard? It's a large university, who cares.. you probably won't see them again if you don't want to... it's so large!</p>
<p>Yea, it really helps if you have a few people with you. Then you guys can slowly absorb more people into your group and it really adds up.</p>
<p>If you're in your room and your computer is locked down, why not leave your door open?</p>
<p>How about getting a dry erase marker board for your door and writing on it asking if anyone wants to play sports, hang out, exercise, socialize whatever?</p>
<p>In my daughter's dorm this was very common and an accepted way to say you want to go for a run, go to the Leach, split a pizza, walk around campus and so on.</p>
<p>Ive followed some of the tips and it doesnt seem like anyone is sticking. It is getting slightly better though. Went to my job training and many of the people seemed chill. Ill see if I can become closwer to them. parent Ill take your advise and get the board with a message if anyone wants to play pool or something. </p>
<p>My roomate comes today so hopefully that will help. Like das said, I think it helps if you start in a small group and grow from there. </p>
<p>PS. Im not OOS. Just not many people from my high school coming here.</p>