Having problems socializing

<p>If your hall has a TV lounge, go down and turn on a sporting event or something that's really popular. Most people passing by will stop for a few minutes when something catches their eye. It's a neutral location that you have every right to be so you shouldn't feel like you are intruding and they won't feel like they are cramping your personal space.</p>

<p>there is a lounge but its not something people simply walk by. I will leave a noteoutside to anyone that wants to play pool or pingpong in that lounge though. </p>

<p>Also I think I can leave my door open. At least I will until someone yells at me. lol</p>

<p>Haha nobody will yell at you for opening your door. :)</p>

<p>I have a similar story...sort of. I was at orientation and everyone else in my orientation group had to take some sort of placement tests. My roomate did too so I was stuck by myself in my room. I felt quite insecure and paced around my hall for a few times before I felt really dumb. Coincidentally Harry Potter came out that week so I resigned to reading it. Fortunately, I felt like a big loser and finally told myself *** was I doing in my room reading a book. So I just walked out of the dorm, looked around, saw someone sitting by himself and awkwardly approached him. I said hi and he said hi and before u know it im playing ping pong with a bunch of guys. I wasn't smooth or charasmatic, but just saying hi goes a long way.</p>

<p>It's really not that hard, everyone's insecure too.</p>

<p>o yea im an oos student too</p>

<p>ill start with the hi thing then. Im starting to get depressed.</p>

<p>The problem with me is that I let of oppurtunities pass because I feel I will be looked at in a strange way and basically passed on.</p>

<p>dont get depressed school just started, its like that movie 40 year old virgin, dont put the P*&^%$ on the petalstool. Dont put to much pressure on yourself. O yea and when i say say hi, i mean ask simple questions such as major, where your from, hobbies, and so on.</p>

<p>I know. </p>

<p>I chilled by the lounge today to simply watch some tv. Not one person came by. Ill keep trying. </p>

<p>I should be heading out to hang out with my roomate soon. Things are slightly getting better.</p>

<p>Friendships take time. You're doing the right things. Once classes start, it will get easier.</p>

<p>If FSU doesn't have an involved orientation program, then you can be sure that there are many people in the same situation. You just have to find them. The first days of college are always the most awkward -- and everything gets better afterward.</p>

<p>There are a lot of this going on. But they are all things people go to in groups.</p>

<p>then just go. honestly, im not trying to be insensitive but you really just have to get over this whole "i cant go anywhere alone or approach anybody" thing.</p>

<p>these things are going on so that people can go and meet eachother. just because you dont have a group to go with yet doesnt mean you should sit things out. just go and join a group. it may be tough but you have nothing at all to lose so why not?</p>

<p>I agree but its still wierd for me.</p>

<p>its weird for everybody. but a bajillion people have gone through this exact same thing and survived. youll just have to do it and ignore the weirdness.</p>

<p>The first week of college can be a little overwhelming, it takes some time to get used to. Just get out there and do stuff, anything. Eventually you'll meet people.
Check out this article, it'll give you some ideas.</p>

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<p>Today was def a good day. I hung out with people from work after we were let out for hours then ran into someone in the hallway that basically did what you guys have been telling me to do. Throughout the conversation with her about where we came from, the classes we were taking, and our majors I thought and laughed to myself, damn they were right. lol.</p>

<p>Thanks for the advice guys, things are getting better.</p>

<p>Oh my gosh. Now he's talking to girls. We'll never hear the end of this. ;)</p>

<p>At this point there are a ton of organizations looking for new members and some that are very low key and offer only some free food and conversation. Sounds like getting out of your comfort zone a bit and finding the free food could be rewarding by itself. (Stay away from the bald ones in the colored robes with the "free" pencils and other weirdness)</p>

<p>Eh, don't worry about it too much. Once class starts and you join clubs it will get better.</p>

<p>Next thing we hear he'll be the stud at his school.</p>

<p>I mention girl and everyone starts poking fun.........</p>

<p>But no def. today went much better. In addition to what I said before I just played pool and pingpong for hours with some people who responded to a sign outside of my door and knocked. Had a good time and met new people. </p>

<p>Like I said, things are getting much better.</p>

<p>I've actually never understood the whole shyness of new freshmen.
Just go up to people, start a convo. This isn't highschool, and if they are jerks about it, **** em', they don't matter anyway.</p>

<p>First week is great for meeting new people.</p>