<p>Do any of you parents have siblings who will be entering college at the same time? I am a triplet and my sisters and I are just beginning to apply to colleges. We have similar interests, but different career plans (right now) and our parents believe we should not go to the same college. I have been away from my siblings before for summers and became extremely independent, but I do not know how I will be able to live without them for 4 years. Do you also think it is imperatif that siblings go to different colleges, or do think that they can still have normal college experiences while attending the same college?</p>
<p>I don't know if it's imperative, but I have two friends who were part of (different) identical twin pairs and, in each case, the twins went to separate colleges. Besides any other reasons for doing this, each of my friends had different interests and learning styles from his/her twin.</p>
<p>were they terribly lonesome? my parents' friend's daughters ended up going to different colleges, but one transferred soph year to be with his brother</p>
<p>wow...triplets going to the same school..wuld b crazy</p>
<p>I haven't heard that they were lonely, but perhaps those feelings were not told to me...in both cases, the friends are now around 50 years old.</p>
<p>The other thing to remember is that you're not away from them for four years; you're calling and IM-ing while you're at school, and you're home a lot on vacation. Consider it an opportunity to expand your network times three.</p>
<p>One of my best friends in college has a twin a couple thousand miles away. They talk on the phone and online. Each has visited the other. </p>
<p>Your not actually away for four years. If you can travel home during breaks, you can get together every Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Spring Break--not to mention summer. That's a couple months away from each other, at the most.</p>
<p>I think you should each apply to the schools you want to apply to, and see what happens with acceptances and your interests and desires next year. I do think it would be difficult if two of you three went to one school and one went somewhere else. You can stay close while being away from each other. I think college is a very good place to learn that. Then again, it's very possible to do this if you three go to a larger school and develop separate (though perhaps overlapping) groups of friends.</p>
<p>i think you should go to different schools. how else will you learn how to be independent in the real world?</p>
<p>thanks for the advice :)</p>
<p>the dartmouth article was rly interesting also</p>
<p>I know 2 sets of triplets that are currently in college. All 6 attended a different school than their siblings and are quit happy. I agree that you and your sisters should apply to the schools that interest you independently and see where you are admitted. From there you can all make the decision that is best for you.</p>
<p>My twins are in different colleges and are happy about it. The nice part is that they often have different breaks and get to visit one another and experience the other college as well as meet the other's friends. As mentioned above, with IMing, Facebook, and cell phones, it's easy to keep in touch. </p>
<p>The challenge for our family was finding enough different colleges for them to apply to! While there was some overlap, they were commited to going to different places from the start. It's worked out quite well.</p>
<p>does visiting many colleges pose problems for the family? do these visiting/special school events usually overlap?</p>
<p>My twins no way want to go to the same schools! Even though their interests are similar, and the same sorts of things appeal to both. They both applied to and loved one wonderful LAC, and it was a chess game up till the end as to who would go where, and taken advantage of the scholarships. They both ended up at great places, or so we hope. </p>
<p>You have to answer the question for yourself/yourselves though, as to what path you want to take. One of my girls went on a year long exchange in Europe as a HS junior. Her sister, at home, blossomed, found her own group of friends and more social persona. Was the best thing that could have happened to her, as she had previously been 'the quiet one'.
They were in constant email contact during the exchange last year, of course, and we visited. </p>
<p>I see them together constantly this year as well as during all the years preceeding the exchange, and I can't imagine them away from each other again for a year, and then in very different parts of the country for college. The constant talk and banter, the laughter. How could you choose to not have that? But I'm not a twin. </p>
<p>The advantage to separation is really being your own person, finding yourself. And that is why my girls want different schools. There is an element in at least twin relationships, of each person taking on certain roles. The communicator, the funny one, the neat one, etc. With separation, you may find more wiggle room in terms of your skills and how you define yourself. But do you want this? Some multiples decide that they life is just that much better with a sibling close by, and why fight that? Only you can decide. Though we do live in the age of amazing communication, and far away is not necessarily all that far away, matter which college you go to.</p>
<p>It's possible to have a neat one? Hmmmm....</p>
<p>It is hard to visit so many colleges, but it is possible. We visited most of the schools together as a family. However, we did split up schools to visit on one vacation. I think we toured about twenty-five campuses in total. Also, each of them made a few repeat visits and did overnights alone to decide on whether an early decision application was in the cards.</p>
<p>Twin mom-neat one is a VERY relative term. You'd think the summer pre college they'd finally dig out...</p>
<p>Oh yes...the visits, and overnights. Family obsession for two years. And for poor me, the FAFSAs and profiles and supplements, oh my! I'm rather taken with CC because I've had no other focus for a year.</p>
<p>Oh, great lakes mom ... I know! The worst was all the Profiles ... especially when without thinking I complained about doing them to the kids and they said something along the lines of ... "and who waited for the last minute?" ::blush::</p>
<p>And let's not forget, the test fees and Profile fees and application fees ... </p>
<p>Oh my, is right!</p>
<p>For me the worst was the LAC with the most complicated supplimentary form, wanting info for two years running. I was so done in by the end of it, that I mailed without making a copy. The financial aid office misplaced it for a few weeks and I had to come up with all those numbers again, before they found the original. </p>
<p>As filling out those things is a form of minor torture, waiting till the last minute is perfectly reasonable in my book. Who chooses torture?</p>
<p>Unfortunately, the torture doesn't end. You will have to fill it out again the following year. It's deja vu! </p>
<p>Just be sure that you don't lose your FAFSA pin numbers.</p>
<p>The good news is that you will only have to fill out two supplements next year.</p>