I’m currently in my sophomore year at school and am living off campus. We are only going into the 2nd week but I feel so frustrated and frankly, somewhat depressed.
Last year was great because in my dorm there were friends of mine around always, but off campus I don’t have that anymore. Furthermore many of my friends from last year no longer go to my school, including 3 kids I was going to room with. Also 2 of my best friends from last year, people who i used to be really close with and hung out all the time live in the basement of my house, but they are not directly linked; think of it like a condo sort of deal. These 2 kids I would hang out with all and talk to all the time last year and than even during this recent summer all 3 of us got together and vacationed across the country.
The issue is that now these 2 kids hardly even talk to me anymore, we had planned to be living together, cooking, studying, shopping, partying, hiking, etc. But for some reason (I have no clue why, right before school it was all good) now I feel like I have been cut off from those 2. Both of them have plenty of other friends who they can easily hang out with whenever they want, they both are super well off socially, and they both have cars to get around. I don’t have any of this.
Those 2 friends share so many common hobbies with me, we all do cross-fit, cooking, partying, skiing, hiking, biking, etc. The list goes on and on, and we used to do all of that stuff together, now they do it together and I get left out of the mix… I have hung with them and talked to them a little bit since the start of school but still not very much at all, it doesn’t feel to me like we are friends anymore… When I try going and talking to them I sorta get a cold reaction and although they would used to help me out whenever I needed, now they just help each other out a lot; whenever I need something they give me some sort of attitude about it. If there is anything that happens which sucks for me than there is always some convenient excuse… One example of this is the other day one of them said they could take me to a store but when it came time to go they said; sorry I didn’t realize it but I have a ton of work to do, an hour later they started to pregame for a party.
I have tried asking whats up, if there was any issue, but they both tell me its fine, and that we are all good… But that can’t be true… why would I just be dropped for no reason? Now I feel essentially trapped at my house, lonely and unable to really do much at all because many of my friends from last year either left or don’t ever contact me/text me back…
I have been trying to make more friends in classes and such, but I’ve always had a tough time with that, all the kids I met in classes last year don’t really care much for me as a friend… my friends were from the dorm which I don’t have anymore.
I just don’t understand what I am doing wrong, I try to talk to new people in classes and my conversations/interactions are almost always positive and such, but for some reason nobody seems interested in actually building a relationship with me.
It hurts man, especially because I had such a great summer, I was never closer with my friends from home and I had such an awesome time on my trip with those 2 friends of mine, but now I don’t have anything going for me anymore… I can’t even get groceries to make myself food, so I have to go out to eat alone all the time. I used to run errands with these guys and was able to get done whatever I needed, but now its extraordinarily difficult or expensive to go anywhere because they aren’t around anymore.
I don’t know what to do… I’m trying to get into more clubs, talk to more people during classes and the whole 9 yards but I just can’t seem to get anything to work. And on top of that I really miss my friends, I feel like they will turn around but I just don’t know how to get them to do so or when they will…