I am a freshman who moved into college two weeks ago, and ever since then I find myself sad. I don’t feel very close to the people on my dorm floor, even though I feel like they are all close to each other. Even when I try to have real conversations with them, I feel as if they aren’t meeting me halfway. So, I spend a lot of time alone, whether it involve studying in the library or my business school building. I try not to spend a lot of time in my dorm room alone, as I feel like it just makes my homesickness worse. My roommate is much more social then me, but I feel like we are very different and I don’t get along with her amazingly, as I feel that she is too competitive with me (as I am in an honors program that she is not in).
I am looking into joining two clubs and possibly a business fraternity, but I feel like they may not all work out. I guess I’m just having a hard time adjusting to being alone, and I don’t exactly have a very strong support system like I did back at home. I am going home for Labor Day, but dread having to leave home to come back to college, as I feel that I just don’t like it here.
@decagirl123 it’s tough being a freshman and away from home. What your feeling is very normal and many others feel it too. You are not alone. Start, as you said, by joining some clubs. You have to get involved and meet others and then the connections will happen. Take one day at a time. Hang in there! Remember, you can always stop in at the counseling center on campus if you need someone to talk too.
This is very normal. Back home you have your family and close friends, and here everyone is still a stranger. It takes time to make those connections and have people go from “person I make small-talk with” to “person with whom I stay up late having heart to hearts.” It gets better! Keep joining clubs, leaving your door open, and approaching people in the dining hall. I used to feel the exact same way for the first few weeks of school, and so do many, many other people. it just takes time.
Read the pinned post oat the top of this forum called having trouble adjusting and making friends.
Read the many other threads that have similar titles to yours. Whatever you, resist the urge to,hide in your room all the time. I promise it will get better. What’s happening to you is almost universal and even all those kids who seem to already have friends and are having a great time are experiencing the same thing. There are literally doznes of posts in the college life forum that all say a similar thing. You aren’t along, it will get better, it takes time. You will be ok as long as you make some effort, but do take time to recharge when you need to.