<p>“Sounds like you are just projecting because your son had a bad experience in the dorms (gosshhh,a college kid had sex in a drom, GASP!)”</p>
<p>Sounds like you’re projecting. I had sex in dorms when I was a student, so that’s not a shocker. Having sex in a dorm room while your roommate is attempting to sleep in the same room is what was considered crude and gross in my day and still is.</p>
<p>"You are an adult and you are calling teenagers, who you only know from a one-sided story scumbags? "</p>
<p>You think a person who’d vomit in their dorm living area while drunk and then ask their sober roommate to clean it up is not a scum bag? This is behavior you’d condone? Would you clean up your roommate’s vomit if you were in the OP’s situation? Would you ask a sober roommate to clean up your drunken vomit?</p>
<p>“Scumbag” is a very mild term for a person who’d do that.</p>
<p>“First, the police have much better things to do than search a dorm room for a dime bag of weed.”</p>
<p>Don’t kid yourself. </p>
<p>I met a college freshman who faced local legal charges after smoking weed in his dorm room freshmen week at my public college, a renowned party school. He was caught by his RA who – as per campus policy – turned him into the local police.</p>
<p>OP, I would suggest you request for a room change. Situations will escalate and you will end up doing more babysitting throughout the year than partying. You may have to keep a drunk friend from driving or monitor the valuables and furniture in your dorm (which you could be liable for if stolen/broken). It is unfortunate that you are stuck in this situation.</p>
<p>Possession of weed and drinking underage are BOTH illegal and can get you, even if not taking part, in trouble with the law, too. I wouldn’t expect your roomates to stick up for you. Talk to your RA, tell him you are uncomfortable with your rooming situation and request a change. </p>
<p>You should not have to put up with this. Don’t let your roomates psyche you out. You don’t need to be in that environment and I admire you for having the sense to get out of it.</p>
<p>I highly suggest a room switch as well. However, I don’t know how difficult it might be at your school. And yes, even if you are not smoking or drinking with them, you still CAN get in trouble.</p>
<p>I don’t see nothing wrong if you feel uncomfortable. The people who are calling you a baby are the same type who behave and think like your roommates. You’re not a wimp. You’re not a baby. You just want to live in an environment that makes you feel comfortable and you want to do well in school. There is nothing wrong with that. You’re not even ratting on your roommates, so I don’t see how that makes you wimpy.</p>
<p>Request a room switch. You don’t have to go into too many details since you don’t want to be a rat. Just say you are uncomfortable and the behavior of the roommates are interfering with your studies. And don’t let the RA and the people at housing try to convince you to work it out with your roommates. Say you want to move out. 3 against 1 will make the living arrangement awkward, so get the hell outta there.</p>
<p>All the relevant portions of the SFSU Housing Contract including a few to indicate what abbreviation is used for the Towers and what age is permitted to live there.</p>
<p>OP, everything your roommates are doing is a violation of not only the housing contract which you all signed, but they are also breaking the law (underage drinking and illegal drug use/possession). You can be held responsible for not reporting the illegal activity by the campus and have judicial action taken against you as well. Even if you are not partaking, you are still a part of it by not only being their physically, but also enabling it by not reporting it.</p>
<p>I do highly encourage you to speak with your roommates first and request that they cease their current activity. I would print out the housing contract with the relevant portions highlighted and make it clear that they are causing you potential legal and school trouble because of their actions. If they do not comply, then report them.</p>
<p>Marijuana can dangerously affect others either through being caught in the violation or simply being exposed to it. I am severely allergic to marijuana myself. Someone in all their brilliance decided to smoke in the dorms near me several weeks ago and it resulted in a midnight check of all our rooms to find the culprit. The few minute exposure I had to the lingering smoke in the hallway caused me to have difficulty breathing and I was very ill for over a week. Moral of the story? Random checks can and do happen even in the middle of the night if there is any suspicion.</p>
<p>Forget not wanting to “rat them out.” If they continue to act as they are even after being asked (politely) to cease their actions, then you must report them if you do not want to face possible action against yourself. You never know if it might come out later that you knew about the activity but willfully chose to ignore it while it happened around you. It will also be a very compelling case to be moved if necessary.</p>
<p>This is your schooling, your health, your comfort, your record, and a lot of money that is tied up in all of this.</p>
<p>Put in the request for a room change. Don’t fear getting a worse roommate. There’s a good chance you’ll get a roommate trying to get out of a similar situation. </p>
<p>Talking to the other guys is not going to change a thing. You’re in a situation in which you are outnumbered. Switch now before the situation gets worse (because it will).</p>
<p>You’re not being whiny about this. Take advantage of the opportunity for a room change.</p>
<p>Good luck and let us know how this story ends.</p>
<h2>Forget not wanting to “rat them out.” If they continue to act as they are even after being asked (politely) to cease their actions, then you must report them if you do not want to face possible action against yourself. You never know if it might come out later that you knew about the activity but willfully chose to ignore it while it happened around you. It will also be a very compelling case to be moved if necessary. ~ Kender</h2>
<p>Give me a break.</p>
<p>The kid should just request a roommate change. This is college, this sort of behavior is typical and he either needs to man-up and deal with it or just move out. Telling your RA or calling the police (as some have suggested) is completely stupid. It’s called growing up and dealing with problems.</p>
<p>He should talk to his roommates, if he doesn’t get a positive response than he needs to move out. Pretty simple. Being a tattle tale is just stupid, I mean is that how you solve problems? </p>
<p>What if the OP goes to a party someday and there are kids drinking, should he call the cops on the whole party? </p>
<p>Grow up people. Learn to deal with problems without RA’s, mommies and daddies, and the police.</p>
<h2>You never know if it might come out later that you knew about the activity but willfully chose to ignore it while it happened around you. ~ Kender</h2>
<p>Stupid. No one is going to pursue conspiracy or collusion over some petty thing like college kids drinking beer in a dorm or smoking a joint in a bathroom.</p>
<p>If it makes you feel that uncomfortable, leave the room when they are all doing it. Like it or not, it’s 3 against 1 - and the OP is the odd duck. </p>
<p>As Kenny Rogers says, “You got to know when to hold’em, know when to fold’em, know when to walk away, and when to run”</p>
<p>I think the OP should take the gamblers advice and just fold’em and walk away.</p>
<p>Well, to be fair, you can’t really compare the OPs situation to being at a party with alcohol use. He can leave a party and avoid such situation, but he can’t leave his dorm right then and there. He lives there for the time being.</p>
<p>But yes, get a room change. This is the risk you take when you are doing random room pairing. And the roommate surveys that they provide for you – it’s BS. They put just about anyone together and people do lie sometimes on their forms.</p>
<p>The difference is that the OP has the legal system and the university (via its code of conduct) supporting him, so the democratic element, if one were to accept its implementation as legitimate in other situations in any way, doesn’t even apply.</p>
<p>Please. The first step is to talk with the roommates. The second, given a negative response, is to use channels as necessary in order to reach the desired outcome. That is why RAs exist (among other reasons, I suppose).</p>
<p>If you are unwilling to do what is necessary, you have a very short-lived business career ahead of you, the same as those who immediately and always complain to the highest authority they can. Don’t mistake machismo for efficiency.</p>
<p>I think guys with stuff animals are adorable :D</p>
<p>Better than those a-hole jock/frat/Guido boys that I come across at my school. I can’t stand guys who feel the need to flaunt their masculinity at every given moment. They are so insecure with themselves it’s ridiculous, yet they feel the need to put down any guy who is confident and comfortable with his sexuality.</p>
<p>Eh, this is the wrong thread to talk about this, but I just felt the need to vomit up what was on my mind.</p>
<p>^ Says the guy who sleeps with stuffed animals.</p>
<p>You can’t go through life running to others to solve your problems. Learn to be a man and handle them yourself.</p>
<p>It’s college, this behavior is common-place. Learn to accept or work out a solution. Simply being a snitch would be bad for your own character (it’s not like they are selling crack out of your dorm, they are playing beer pong and smoked a join in their own bathroom).</p>
<p>As real men say: Improvise, Adapt and Overcome.</p>
<p>I’m not saying the OP has to accept what is going on in his room, I’m saying he needs to handle it on his own.</p>
<h2>any guy who is confident and comfortable with his sexuality ~ Mushaboomblue</h2>
<p>A guy who has stuffed animals (let alone 8 of them) doesn’t mean he is comfortable with his sexuality, it just means he’s comfortable being a fruit.</p>
<p>The OP would be solving his own problems regardless of how he approaches the issue. The fact that they do not conform to your perverse idea of manhood is none of anyone’s concern but your own.</p>
<p>Perhaps you would suggest gunning down the roommates while wearing camo pants and a red headband. </p>
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<p>It is not common everywhere. And the OP has been given advice as to how to work out a solution.</p>
<p>And “common place” is not synonymous with acceptable, or even tolerable. That argument is flawed on so many levels it is not even worth considering.</p>
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<p>It doesn’t matter. It’s illegal. And it’s hardly bad for character if the roommates refuse to cooperate with the OP at all.</p>
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<p>What would you suggest? Assume that the roommates refuse to change their behavior in any way whatsoever.</p>
<h2>What would you suggest? Assume that the roommates refuse to change their behavior in any way whatsoever. ~ Baelor</h2>
<p>Move out. </p>
<p>There are 4 people living in that room, and regardless of what you may think, it’s their home too. If they can’t find a compromise, I’d suggest the OP moves out. He stated he needs space and silence, well that isn’t really a dorm environment.</p>
<p>I highly doubt that the OP couldn’t work out some ground rules with his roommates. If the OP cannot tolerate being around alcohol, a college dorm really isn’t an environment he should be living in. </p>
<p>If the other 3 roommates are happy with their living situation, I think the OP just needs to move out.</p>