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<p>Where it’s okay to date your sister, but not be friends with a gay person.</p>
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<p>The “advice” you’re giving out is to rape the other person. I’m sure what I’m saying is controversial, but how is what you suggest any different than giving someone you like a date-rape drug? Both alcohol and the drug are given with the same intent (having sex with someone when they won’t do it sober) and cause the same thing to happen (reduce one’s ability to think/physically resist).</p>
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<p>Haha. Good one. Its people like him that make me NOT want to apply/go to any University down South. And imo its his attitude that gives the South a bad reputation.</p>
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<p>I am. I don’t fit the gay stereotype, so I’ve met a couple of straight girls who just won’t believe it and won’t quit. If I did to a straight guy what they did to me, I would be beaten and left for dead. And the straight guy would probably get off free on the “gay panic defense,” which courts still accept as a valid argument.</p>
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<p>You’re no better than BIGeastBEAST if you really believe this. Since the majority is straight, we shouldn’t care if the minority is treated with the same respect you expect for the majority because it’s a minor inconvenience?</p>
<p>^Although BigEast is a ■■■■■, taking someone out to drinks is hardly rape. If they were uncomfortable, they wouldn’t get drinks with you or flirt in the first place.</p>
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<p>Sure taking them out for a drink isn’t rape. But isn’t he suggesting that you get them well drunk and then proceed to make advances towards them?</p>
<p>I’m sure the OP is smart enough not to follow BIGeastBEAST’s fake advice meant to make a fool out of him.</p>
<p>…sigh. Please don’t pull out the PC card. Please. It’s so much harder to take you seriously if you’re going to jump on every statement.</p>
<p>Let me make this clear: my point was that a MAN ISN’T A WOMAN. A gay man doesn’t somehow equal a woman just because they both have the same sexual preferences. </p>
<p>Do you not understand that? </p>
<p>Gay guy hitting on straight guy = Gay woman hitting on straight woman
Straight woman hitting on gay guy = too different sexes</p>
<h2>The “advice” you’re giving out is to rape the other person. I’m sure what I’m saying is controversial, but how is what you suggest any different than giving someone you like a date-rape drug? Both alcohol and the drug are given with the same intent (having sex with someone when they won’t do it sober) and cause the same thing to happen (reduce one’s ability to think/physically resist). ~ 1253729</h2>
<p>No, I’m not advocating rape, as in forcing someone to have sex against their will by force.</p>
<p>I’m advocating the OP use the same tactics that every other male on this planet uses to get a piece.</p>
<p>Have a few drinks, get loosened up (metaphorically speaking) and see where it goes when you put your mack on. Nothing wrong with that.</p>
<p>West Virginia (BigEast’s alma mater): </p>
<p>Where it’s okay to date your sister, but not be friends with a gay person. ~ Pandem</p>
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<p>Yeah, but have you seen how hot our sisters are?</p>
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<p>Sure taking them out for a drink isn’t rape. But isn’t he suggesting that you get them well drunk and then proceed to make advances towards them? ~ 1253729</p>
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<p>Please speak for yourself… ~ 1253729</p>
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<p>As if you like girls.</p>
<p>Getting a girl plastered to get with her = probably borderline rape.
Having a few drinks and (maybe) getting with her = the backbone of college and young society in general.</p>
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<p>Pandem, clearly you are not understanding something here. The point of the OP’s story is not just that he likes someone of the same sex. It’s that he likes someone with an incompatible orientation. Straight woman hitting on a gay guy = incompatible orientations.</p>
<p>The difference you keep pointing out is that, in the two examples you deem valid, it is a straight person who is being put on the spot. Somehow you find this more offensive, even though I guarantee you it happens MUCH less than the straight-hitting-on-a-gay scenario. </p>
<p>And I’ll ask you not to dismiss my points as a “PC card.” Just maybe it’s possible you did say something offensive. It’s just as easy for you to call my appropriate disapproval a “PC” rant as it is for me to pull the “gay card” (though I’ve rarely heard of the gay card being used, let alone working) on you.</p>
<p>I don’t find it offensive. I don’t really care. I think it’s stupid to hit on people who obviously aren’t interested. Period. I don’t care if it’s man-woman-dog-goldfish-anime character. </p>
<p>If you know the person won’t be interested, get over yourself and leave them be. THE WORLD DOES NOT CHANGE TO SUIT YOUR NEEDS. This does not matter if a straight man hit on a woman he knows is gay, or any other scenario.</p>
<p>If a close friend (who I knew was gay) told me he’s attracted to me, I’d probably cease to be his friend, but only until he tells me it’s no longer an issue. I have no responsibility to make him feel comfortable about his decision and my lack of willingness to participate. That’s his issue. Not mine.</p>
<p>Now you are putting words in my mouth. I didn’t say that people should change to suit my needs. You just claimed that gays should get used to the opposite sex making advances on them, even if they know them to be gay, because most people are straight - contrary to your vocalized beliefs about gays hitting on straights. You also lamented that a straight hitting on a known gay would be a “PC ****storm,” when that is nowhere near the case. </p>
<p>I agree that if a person isn’t interested, leave them alone. My problem was with the double standard you’ve been perpetuating.</p>
<p>Your reiteration of my points aren’t what I think, nor are they what I said. I never said that gays should get used to people hitting on them. </p>
<p>I said that most people are straight, and that’s why a gay man hitting on a straight man isn’t received the same way as a woman hitting on a gay man is. </p>
<p>I already explained this: most guys are buddies with their guy friends, and most girls are buddies with their girl friends. A girl - guy relationship usually isn’t as non-sexual and tightly-knit. The evolutionary role of male-male and female-female relationships isn’t going to change just because one of those guys likes men.</p>
<p>I guess we are not on the same page, then. Whatever.</p>
<p>By the way, when you bring up “evolutionary” reasons for things like love and friendship, you start to sound more like a robot as opposed to a human being</p>
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<p>"So, here it is: I’ve fallen for one of my friends but I’m gay and he’s straight. We’re pretty mature people so we handle ourselves pretty well, but I can’t help feeling heartache whenever I’m with him. "</p>
<p>You’re in the same situation that occurs when, for instance a straight person falls for a straight person who regards them as only a friend.</p>
<p>it would be a mistake to reveal your feelings to your friend. Doing so will probably end the friendship. The same thing would happen if both of you were straight, and your friend were of the opposite gender.</p>
<p>It is really awkward being around someone who is in love with you when you’re not in love with that person.</p>
<p>My suggestion is to distance yourself from your friend for a while so you won’t torment yourself by being around someone who isn’t going to reciprocate your romantic feelings.
After a while, you may end up feeling just friendly toward him. You may fall in romantic love with a gay person who also falls in love with you. After you lose romantic feelings for your straight friend, you could resume your friendship.</p>
<p>I suspect that one of my college female friends was romantically interested in me when we were in college. I didn’t know she was gay, and had no idea about her feelings toward me. It wasn’t until about 10 years ago, long after we had graduated, that my friend let me now she was gay (no big deal to me. I’ve got lots of gay friends), and due to some things her partner said about how much my opinion means to my friend, I began to suspect that long ago, my friends feelings for me were more romantic/sexual than just friendly.</p>
<p>If she had told me that back then, however, I would have distanced myself from her because it’s awkward being around someone who’s romantically interested in me when I have no interest in them that way. This would have been true even if she had been a guy.</p>