<p>eh not really and when you’re pretty you can get away with that kind of stuff</p>
<p>Where I’m from, height is GENERALLY not a problem. Most people are tall/tallish, boys and girls included. Of course, there are exceptions like mentioned earlier.</p>
<p>To put my views in perspective, I’ve only even SEEN one person I wouldn’t date on a basis of height, and she was under 3 feet tall. I would find it odd that she’d be talking to my thighs and I’d have to constantly look down at her. But this was just someone I saw, don’t even know her, this was just for an example. Outside of this outlying situation/example, I have to say that height just wouldn’t be a factor in who I’d date, as far as I’m concerned. Anyone who thinks otherwise, I consider shallow.</p>
<p>Can you say, [url=<a href=“http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=shallow]shallow?[/url”>Urban Dictionary: Shallow]shallow?[/url</a>]</p>
<p>Baha, sorry, but I’ve gotta correct Urban Dictionary! <strong><em>FLASHILY!</em></strong> If that’s a word…=P</p>
<p>The tallest girl I ever dated was 6’4ish, currently dating her right now. There’s a 5 inch difference, but it’s not like I care much.</p>
<p>interesting. only a handful of girls are over 5’ 9" at my school so i dont have to worry about this as much. personally i dont find myself attracted to really short girls but most are fine height wise.</p>
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<p>So your way of dismissing the idea that completely disregarding over 90% of males as prospective dates on the sole basis of height is superficial is to say that, as a likewise superficially attractive person, you are able to engage in the practice?</p>
<p>I believe that’s exactly what she’s getting at here…</p>
<p>^ Yes, I figured. 
I was opting for what I thought may be a more resonant framing, however.</p>
<p>So what’s your personal take on the significance of height in relation to dating, Silverturtle?</p>
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<p>Well, I’d have to first answer this question by deferring to a generalization: In deciding with whom one wants to spend his or her life (or a big part of it), a number of factors come into play, such as friendliness and pleasantness of demeanor (which compose the majority of what most would call surface personality), thoughtfulness (both intellectually and compassionately), intelligence (for me, mathematical and otherwise logical intelligence would matter a lot less than verbal and situational intelligences and working memory; I would want someone who could formulate, consider, and conversationally convey meaningful, complex ideas), reciprocation of feelings (though the lack thereof usually makes an otherwise favorable prospects appraisal a wistfully lustful futility anyways :)), compatibility of future plans (if only for logistic reasons), physical factors (comprising sexual attractiveness, cuteness, and fitness), and humor. </p>
<p>Each of the factors is but one part of a holistic evaluative consideration, much of which is unconscious and manifests as inexplicable longing (i.e., love); deficiency in any one area may be negated by a commensurate attractiveness in another area. As such, someone’s appearance would in theory never do them in on its own (for my purposes), though there may be cases in which the initial aesthetic impression is so negative that pursuing an investigation of her other qualities (which, outside of creeper parlance, is known as dating) is unlikely to be worth the while. Such a case is rare in its extremeness, however.</p>
<p>Height is one of those physical factors. Too tall is negative; too short is as well. “Too tall” is probably anything more than one inch taller than me because this might elicit flack from superficial peers, leading to discomfort and relationship insecurity, and “too short” would have to be pretty extraordinarily tiny because – as a result of men’s greater average height – a positive differential between a boyfriend’s and girlfriend’s heights is socially accepted. But as my previous principles imply, I am using “too” not to indicate disqualification but merely to cite as a shortcoming. Also, for practical purposes most girls would not be too short for me by the standard I just set, since I’m of below average height for a male – which my response to golfcrewxctrack’s superficiality may have accidentally made obvious.</p>
<p>Anyhow, physical factors probably shouldn’t be the most important category for consideration. Unfortunately, they’re the easiest to pin down (I blame posting on HSL for being relegated to such an ignoble pun) and are quick to exploit men’s period of especially active hormones when they are likeliest to be seeking a partner. But as things get more serious, the looks get less important; with this in mind, one would be wise to try his or her best to lessen the initial weight given to physical factors. And even within that category, height doesn’t really have much of an effect in my opinion: There are plenty of physically unattractive tall women, and more than enough physically attractive short women. But I concede that a (small) positive correlation may exist nonetheless.</p>
<p>(This is not my usual topic of forum conversation, so please bear with the ostensibly stilted tone.)</p>
<p>-Beared with- or would it be -bore with-…? Either way, you get the point haha. You view it in almost the same way as I do, though I wouldn’t really be bothered by dating someone significantly taller than me, as can be seen by my girlfriend’s height in relation to mine, well, or lack thereof… Anyway, I feel the sameway, height wouldn’t influence how I feel about a person, nor would any physical factor, however, a physical factor could determine whether or not I would approach the person, but only in extreme cases (see my earlier post for an example). And your point about the lessening of the significance of physical factors as a relationship progresses is spot on, I’ve been with my girlfriend for nearly 5 months (would’ve been 7, were I not so stupid at one point), and I can honestly say that when she gains 15 or so pounds as a result of being on her period, I don’t mind a bit, there’s simply more of her, whereas if I didn’t care so much for her, I might care about that…(: Insightful analysis.</p>
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<p>The past tense is “bore with,” though I’m sorry if I bored you.</p>
<p>I was joking, no worries(: But thanks for the grammar information(:</p>
<p>I prefer tall guys [6 feet and up], but realistically, 5’9" and up is fine. I’m not that tall, but I’d like a decent height difference.</p>
<p>Honestly though, that’s all just preference. With the possible exception of golfcrewxctrack, I’m sure everyone on this forum would be willing to disregard all but the most extreme height oddities if they met a really great person.</p>
<p>What about guys who would date taller guys and girls who would date shorter girls? HUH!?</p>
<p>I’m straight, so I don’t know, but I’d guess it’s a more significant factor for males…</p>
<p>I’m 5’'6, so pretty average for women, but all my friends happen to be taller. My boyfriend is about 6", a full head taller than me, but I honestly wouldn’t mind much about height. If he was 3+ inches shorter than me, i might feel a tad weird. Though there aren’t many guys that are 5"3, even in 10th grade. My best friends are all 5"10+, but they’re veryyyy uptight about the height of guys. One of them won’t date a guy below 6"1, primarily 6"3 guys. And when you’re 16… There aren’t many guys like that. It’s so limiting.</p>
<p>^^Likewise.
Silverturtle, thank you for your detailed response. It was really interesting and correct.
I’ve personally never understood the stock some people put into height when it comes to physical attraction. It shouldn’t matter. One of my closest friends’ parents, his mom is 6’5, and his dad is 5’8. That’s a HUGE difference. They’ve been happily married for 20 years. Another, his dad is 6’8 and his mom is 5’2. Married for about the same time period, and it’s happy. Height is one thing you can’t discriminate on because you really can’t control that. You can control how in shape you are for the most part, most of your personality, and definitely your attitude. You can’t really control your height, and it’s unfair to judge based on that.</p>
<p>And if I remember correctly, Golf said in another post she liked only boys with blonde hair and blue eyes. That’s overly specific. Unless she’s trying to help create a new Aryan race, I think she’s being way too specific. Though I have no right to comment on her views.</p>