Hi CC Parents,
I’m not on here too much, but when i was helping my oldest daughter put together her college list I read a post here about a school I’d never heard of before. Fordham University. Well my daughter is a thriving Fordham Ram and my husband and I couldn’t be happier with the university. Thank you CC!
Now on to daughter #2 and we’re struggling to make a list. Her most recent response to this process is “pick a school and I’ll go”. She seems overwhelmed by the process of choosing and isn’t really sure what type of school she wants. I hope anyone with insight can make honest, helpful suggestions. I will try to be as honest as I can in my description of her as a person and a student.
She is a junior. 3.9 UW GPA with several Honors/AP. Attends a strong academic prep school (which she applied to on her own in j.h. because she wanted something more challenging than public and got in with a very generous scholarship!). Strong interest in Math, and is thinking maybe math or engineering for a major but unsure. Is a varsity starter for the soccer team and plays club at a fairly high level (not the highest). Her coach, who is knowledgable, says she can definitely play D2 or D3 and depending on the school maybe a low ranked D1. Has leadership, volunteer, clubs, church and a job. She definitely wants to play in college but is open to the idea of playing for the college’s rec team. She’s not really passionate about anything in particular. She describes the best part of her High School experience as being a part of the soccer team.
We know she can be competitive at some top schools, but the question is where will she be happy and thrive? This is what I’ve come to realize - She likes being one of the smartest kids- not just average, but doesn’t like being with kids who aren’t equally motivated. A friend who is a freshman at Berkeley spoke about how crazy competitive the atmosphere is there. He went from being High School Valedictorian and top student to barely being able to maintain passing grades. He is struggling. My daughter is thinking maybe she doesn’t want that level of competition. She is also a pretty laid back kid who does enjoy some parties/social life but also likes to relax at home.
Every time we start making lists it seems like there are too many to choose. Especially since she has no real opinion on size, location, etc. I’m torn between 1) pushing her to apply to top schools where I think she’d do well, (but which ones? 2) letting her coach see where she could get recruited, 3) sending her to Fordham with her sister (where she will likely be eligible for a large scholarship based on PSAT) and 4) letting her do this by herself - I’m tired.
I know this is long. I’m just hoping some parents have been in my shoes and in hindsight can offer some advice or guidance. Or point me to some older threads, I haven’t had much luck. You guys are always great. Thank you so much for reading this long post.