<p>My college sophomore is much too detailed about her partying activities on her facebook. Last year, we had this discussion several times that there really is no such thing as privacy on facebook, but she doesn't seem to believe it. I know about her inappropriate posts because she has given me very limited access to her facebook (her idea, not mine- so I can post "cute" things). I don't think she realizes how much I am actually seeing but I know if I just confront her about this, all that will happen is that she will block me completely as she did last year, until she decides that she wants me to have the access again.
Since she has over 1000 friends, including former high school teachers, I believe that this is a poor practice. I worry about potential employers too. Does anyone have an effective way to educate their student about this issue?</p>
<p>I know how you feel! Luckily, my son is pretty careful about what he posts on facebook. I have explained to him that he should not put anything on facebook that he would not want his grandparents to know about. I am honestly shocked at some of the things kids put on their facebook - one of my sons ‘friends’ posted about a sexual experience she had (sorry to say I don’t think much of this girl!). I know most employers do check facebook on potential hires.</p>
<p>I have heard of a woman who posted that she plans to be a #<em>%</em>! trophy wife and that she’s rich & hot. That made it really difficult for my friend to stomach a relationship with her DIL (the DIL was the facebook poster) & the relationship has gone downhill ever since. 
Would agree that nothing should be posted that you would be embarassed for your grandparents to read in the morning news.</p>
<p>I suggest you tell your DD about creating two identities for FB: one that shows a more conservative venue, and one for her peers: the party girl. Her identity for her peers can be some nickname, while her “standard” one is for those who don’t know well (like employers).</p>
<p>Not sure how you’d erase what has already been posted on FB–have heard it’s difficult to try to get it deleted. It is VERY tough to get kids & others to use caution & discretion sometimes. :(</p>
<p>She has given you access to her wall, but maybe she has the teachers and folks like that grouped into a different category so they can’t see her status or her wall.</p>
<p>Do you have a good adult friend or relative who is a friend of hers? Have them let you know what they can see. What she is doing is not good, but it may not be quite as bad as you fear.</p>
<p>daughter recently de-activated her facebook until college acceptances are in; I do know of kids who have two different facebook profiles, though…</p>
<p>to the OP: if your daughter is in a sorority, she could possibly be in violation of sorority rules…may want to mention that…</p>
<p>limabeans and MidwestMom have good suggestions. D should also be concerned about her friends tagging her in photos so that even if D has restricted access of others to her page, she can be identified in photos on friends’ pages doing inappropriate things. She can remove the tag, but she has to care enough about it to take the trouble to do it.</p>
<p>Two cautionary tales:<br>
A woman in my city was fired from her job as a waitress immediately after her employer read her complaints about some customers on her Facebook page.</p>
<p>Also, Facebook postings can be a lot more public than you think. After reading a column on the public nature of Facebook postings, I did a general internet search (not specific to Facebook) of my daughter’s name. Several results popped up, and here’s what happened:</p>
<p>Me: Oh, look! Here is another girl with your name. Here’s her cell phone number–and it’s in our area code!</p>
<p>Daughter: Mom. That’s my cell phone number.</p>
<p>Sadly, a friend of hers had lost her cell phone, so had asked all her Facebook friends to post their cell phone numbers so she could repopulate her address book, and now those numbers are available to everyone.</p>