<p>so i'm thinking abotu withdrawing from this frat i'm in.</p>
<p>lets just say i dont really feel I "click" with anyone that well in my new fraternity.</p>
<p>theres alot more to this, so if you've had any experience or would reallly like to help me out, send me a PM.</p>
<p>Are you a pledge or already a brother? If you're a pledge, every fraternity I know of allows pledges to withdraw at any time. There won't be any hard feelings; everyone knows that their fraternity isn't for everyone. If you're a brother then your fraternity will have its own specific policy.</p>
<p>i'm already been a member for over a semester now. will there be hard feeelings/hatred towards me if i withdraw now? i guess we are sorta a nerdy frat. not many hard-core party animals, etc here</p>
<p>If you're forward and honest, the guys should understand where you're coming from. It might be awkward for a little time, but they'll get over it. If there are still hard feelings, it's their problem. Just do what you gotta do.</p>
<p>i'm worried about if i withdraw now, but still live there. i want to stay there since its cheap, i got a good roommate and dont want to move my stuff</p>
<p>^^^ That will probably be awkard. Living in the house is often considered a privilege associated with being a brother.</p>
<p>The living there thing probably won't work out. If you're an active brother just become inactive and say it has to do with dues or something. There are a lot of inactive brothers who just cannot afford dues in my chapter who are still on fine terms with everyone in the house. </p>
<p>If you really disliked your brothers that much how can you enjoy living in a house full of them?</p>
<p>If it's not a good fit, it's not a good fit. It is unfortunate but if you've initiated, you cannot join any other fraternity.</p>
<p>I don't think people will be upset with you unless they're already upset with you.</p>
<p>Before you decide to make this final, talk with the people you are closest with. Maybe included your Big Bro/pledge dad, or the guy who was your pledge educator. I can tell you from seeing it happen over and over again, that a lot of times friendships change from year one to year two. Sometimes, guys feel like that simply because they're in the fraternity, everyone is automatically going to become their best friends, but that's not how it works, usually. Perhaps you just need to put a little extra effort into making friends with the guys in your pledge class...if you're shy, maybe it's just playing video games to start with. </p>
<p>If there's other stuff going on, and you're the guy that everyone loves to hate in your pledge class (it happens), that's a little bit different issue. Again, talk to people you are close with, talk with some of the older guys and see what they think. Again, maybe it's a misunderstanding, or maybe you need to tone down your behavior or attitude so that it's more in line with what's been deemed "acceptable" by the chapter.</p>
<p>Regardless of your situation, if you still think it's best to resign from the chapter, don't make a big deal about it. Again, I've seen it happen plenty often (not only in my chapter but lots of others), it's very possible to gracefully distance yourself from the chapter. Maybe you don't resign right away, but simply stop being around so much and gradually kind of drop off the face of the earth. Then when you officially leave, it's not a shock...</p>
<p>its not that i dislike my brothers as it is that i feel its just awkward and a waste of time being a member</p>
<p>i've contacted a couple of the older members. i'll wait for their replies.</p>
<p>if i withdraw and move out, my parents arent going to be very happy</p>