Well I’m 22 and I am a nursing student. I started out at a community college and tried to get in the nursing program there but my grades weren’t good enough. So my dad found a nursing school that a lot of people didn’t hear of but it’s accredited. It’s a fast paced college you’re taking like 2 nursing classes a semester! Well to make a long story short in April I failed a nursing class and I failed a pharmacology class last semester that makes 2 classes. In nursing school a C is considers failing. I got the letter in my email and I am SCARED beyond reason about what or how to tell my parents. That school wasn’t a normal college it was so unorganized and the only reason my dad sent me there without not researching it enough was to just get me to be a nurse quick. He liked that the school which is a 2 year you can sit for the boards and get your RN. I just went along with it at the time but didn’t realize how insane this school is. Even my professors at the school said it’s not a school to be in. I had to do 2 clinicals a week and had tests almost every 2 weeks! It was not a normal college and eventually I got overwhelmed and failed. I am now transferring over to adelphi university a 4 year college to continue there. I didn’t get the acceptance letter yet but my plan was to get the acceptance letter and then tell them. But they literally think I’m still going to this nursing school which is not known by many colleges.
I need everyone’s advice. I don’t think they understand how overwhelming this school was and how I think a 4 year college will be better for me and actually have time to study and have breaks. That nursing school was straight the only break I had was Christmas and that was for 2 weeks.
Please help I don’t know what to do! I don’t know if I should wait and then tell them or tell them flat but then they’ll know I lied to them cause I’m giving them the illusion that I am still in that college I was going to tell them next month and say oh I just failed when in reality I was out of that school since late April! I still want to be a nurse I still want to make them proud but that school was not realistic it cost me my grades and my health and I want to tell them so bad but I don’t know the right time.
Everything you described is what a normal accelerated nursing school is like…
The only difference from a non-accelerated school is that you get summer, spring, winter, and thanksgiving breaks, but the amount of exams and clinicals are the same.
Do you mean you went to clinicals two days a week or you had clinical days for two different classes each week (which would be almost four clinical days a week)??
Were you also working?
Every nursing school has two clinical days per week. Even a regular BSN program has that many clinical days per week. Every nursing school has tests every two weeks…heck, a lot of them are every single week!
In addition to your parents, It sounds like you also did not understand how overwhelming nursing school can be. It is not like normal college. At all. You don’t get the luxury of sitting in one class and then sitting and listening in another class. You have to learn, apply and work and show you know how to apply the knowledge.
You will only change things moving forward if you sit down and write down objective feedback as to what happened and where the gaps are and how you are going to fix things moving forward. At your new school will you be in nursing or in another program?
Sounds like you need to take a break to re-group and give some thought to what nursing school will really be like. Not everyone is cut out to be a nurse and lots of people vastly underestimate the critical thinking needed. Is there anything else you think you might want to do?
Bad news never gets better with time. Get the conversation with them behind you and over with so you can move on at a more reasonable, slower paced school like a community college program.
Well I can see myself do what my parents are doing which is medical technologist but that means I would have to start from scratch. I already completed half of my nursing classes you know and I don’t mind working hard to be a nurse it’s challenging yes nothing is easy but ever since high school I went straight to college with no break in between and I guess it’s catching up to me. But I don’t think they’ll understand. I feel like it’s money to them and not about me and my well being. I’m literally seeing a therapist during the time I failed and in my spare time i have been seeing the therapist that’s how serious it was to me. I wanted to make them proud that I got so overwhelmed I got sick cause of it.
Hey don’t worry. See the Situation of your Home and then Tell to your Parents. Don’t worry about Studying. You have many Online Tutorials and Good Pdfs in Online which will definitely Guide you.
It is important for nurses to do well on classes because they need to have the knowledge in the classes to be a nurse and not harm people.
You are not cut out for an accelerated program. Probably your Dad should have guessed that ahead of time because your grades were not good enough to get into CC program.
Talk to someone at the CC or your current college about career options.
Can you transfer your nursing courses you did pass to another program?
Maybe you do have to start another program
Talk to your parents…tell them that you have failed a class in this accelerated program…you studied/worked/ but were not able to pass.
I feel the most important thing is for you to identify what you can do to support yourself as an adult (preferably at something you enjoy). The nursing career seems to be your parents’ idea, but it is not the case that we can always live out what we like through our kids. So don’t worry about disappointing your parents by shifting away from their preference. Nursing is great for job opportunities and security, but it is not the only way to go.
If you state what specific courses you’ve taken, what grades you got in them, what you have enjoyed (and have not), and what you think your weaknesses are that led you to failing a nursing class and a pharmacology class, we will be able to give you ideas about what is likely to work for you.
I think you should step back from school and take some time to work and become independent. What you’re doing right now is making you miserable-you can’t talk to your parents, you are not successful in your classes.
Life is long, and college will be there.
Take some time to figure out what you are good at and what you want to do. You can get a job to support yourself without a college degree-start there, work your way towards independence, and go back to school when you are ready and have to answer to nobody but yourself.
As for talking to your parents-I would take some time to think about what your plan of action for your life for the next few years is going to be-concrete steps from today onwards. Where do you see yourself at 25? What goals do you want to accomplish? What do you want to get better at?
When you’ve made a plan for yourself going forward, then you can talk to your parents about your failure, and what your plans are for yourself.
Otherwise when you talk to them without a solution it’s entirely likely that they’re going to impose a solution on you. One that may not be right for you, and may not be what you want.
I took a gap year. It was a stupid idea. Of course, this was the year where the housing market just crashed and I couldn’t find a job for the life of me. However, things are okay these days. If you can work and figure out in life what you really want, you can come at school with a goal and that you’ll just need to do what you need to do to get it done.
My parents supported me financially through school during my first degree. They’re great parents. No one ever in our family had gone to college before me and they knew I couldn’t join the military for medical reasons. However, as a student, I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life. Not a single clue and my girlfriend can attest that I would change what I was going to do every week career-wise. I would tell her I wanted to be X, Y, and Z. Well, my final semester is when I finally figured it out and I have been trying to become that ever since. 2 years.
I learned that I had to enroll back in school for a whole other bachelor’s degree. I could not find a university that would accept me for a master’s. So, I work forty hours a week as a programmer while attending classes full time. I also work on-call. I have tests every two weeks, if not sooner, and I have quizzes every single day I’m in class. Also, I have a girlfriend and a dog that need attention as well.
I’m not a genius. I have to study. My time is very limited in regards to free time. So is my money. I can say that before embarking on this journey that’s going to take me until I’m 29 years old, that it is going to be worth it personally for me because this is what I want out of life. I want to be an engineer. It only took me five years to realize that after graduating high school and then graduating with the wrong major.
Once you figure out what you want to do with your life, all you gotta do is go and get it.