Help! I had a crush on my interviewer...

<p>Alright, I registered to post this. I know it's bizarre and everything... but since CC people are always so nice I will bother you with my ridiculousness just this once. </p>

<p>I had an admission interview several days ago - will not spell out the name of the school but it's one of the big ivies - and talked to my interviewer in a cafe for over an hour. It's not really long but the longest one I had so far. My interviewer is just a couple of years out of college. He did not grill me with "profound" qs like "why this school" and "what do you want out of college" etc. We talked a lot about my school, family, ecs(from my resume) and so forth and I asked about courses, dorm, campus, and also a little bit about his life in this country. (note - i'm an international and this did not take place in the US, my intervier is part of an English-teaching program.) He's real good-humored, informative, straightforward but still friendly. I felt real comfortable talking with him - perhaps a little too comfortable. He's not like drop-dead gorgeous or anything....but I just feel weird through the whole thing and afterwards... like...wanting to meet with him again sometime?</p>

<p>(I wonder what would have happened if when he asked "do you have more qs" i responded with 'hmm...do you have a girlfriend?' Of course it would be like a felony had i said so :S) I sent him a thank-you note the day after the interview while I was - still is - really confused and feeling really bad. Guaranteed that it's a very ORDINARY thank-you note, nothing weird like what i'm thinking right now. </p>

<p>Admission aside - and it's not my fav school anyway though i do like his school better after the interview ;) - what do you guys think about all this? Would welcome perspectives from fellow HS seniors and especially, interviewers, if you have not been ****ed off by my craziness yet. Thank you for your advice, if you're willing to give them.</p>

<p>Sorry... but while it's okay to be attracted to him, and to think about him for a bit, I guarantee that you'll never see him again (unless, of course, you try to contact him... which is a bad, bad idea). I'm sorry if this isn't what you wanted to hear.</p>

<p>Yeah, I'm going to have to agree with LesOs. I can't see trying to contact being a good idea. It seems that only trouble would come from doing sonething like that. I'm really sorry though. It is hard to find someone you can really click with.</p>

<p>If he's "a couple of years" past college graduation, he's seven or eight years older than you are. At this age, that's a big difference; he's in a completely different phase of his life. And with any luck, in six months you'll be in college in a different country (different continent?). No way a relationship with him would be a good idea.</p>

<p>Get real. I have crushes on ten people a day and you don't see me meeting up with any of them.</p>

<p>Clearly, you should base your decision on where to go to school off of this.</p>

<p>Separate your feelings for the interviewer from your feelings for what college you will choose. You have the right to hold feelings for anyone, but I believe it would be good judgement on your behalf if you did not express them.</p>

<p>if you can develop a crush that quickly, i'm sure you'll find someone else soon enough. don't do anything stupid.</p>

<p>You shouldn't like the school better because of that guy. Obviously, he has graduated. He won't be at that school. You will probably never see him again. Crushes are ok, but acting on one like that is not ok. It would be of very poor taste to ask an interviewer if he has a girlfriend.</p>

<p>Thanks for all your thoughts. I appreciate your understanding of the weirdness on my part ^_^|||</p>

<p>I guess I wasn't going to contact him etc to begin with, and chances are slim if we'll EVER meet again. Just waiting for my feelings to die down, hopefully soon enough.</p>

<p>May I add two more things:
- it's not like I develop crushes 'quickly'. I think it's more about meeting someone that 'clicks'. (Hey maybe the fact that he's older does have something to do with this - no offence, but guys at my HS are SO immature.)</p>

<p>-I did not like the school better simply because he went there. It's for the information he gave from which I've got an understanding of life on campus much better than what i've learned from the Internet. As for choice of college - I've got to be admitted first though. Yeah well.</p>

<p>Fides et Ratio well said!!! haha</p>

<p>omg LMAO LMAO LMAO !!! sorry</p>

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It would be of very poor taste to ask an interviewer if he has a girlfriend.

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i can imagine how this would be stupid...but so what would happen?</p>

<p>this thread is really cute tho. was he hot??</p>

<p>I think she was charmed by his personality rather by his looks. Smart guy, good-humored, friendly...some fine attributes of Mr.Right if you ask me.</p>

<p>Oh, and I forgot MATURE. I understand chemengr perfectly in this respect.</p>

<p>^OMG THAT SOUNDS HOT!! :P lol</p>

<p>^de gustibus non est disputandum :D</p>

<p>what does that mean? lol</p>

<p>if only i was amazingly literate and could speak in latin on occasion. that's super-sexy too</p>

<p>uhh, not really. haha</p>

<p>for meaning of the Latin phrase,use GOOGLE/wiki!</p>

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i can imagine how this would be stupid...but so what would happen?

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<p>Yeah i was wondering so bad... what about setting up an interview w/ a college you have no intention of going and see? lol that sounds like a felony too... =D</p>

<p>@Lamassu:
Thank you! ...T_T... You spoke my heart.
Still, i'm trying to tell myself that college's ahead, and something more interesting might happen there... :] <----not really a smile</p>