<p>It's 3 a.m. and I have insomnia for the first time since my older S, now 13, was born. Since I've had children I've been too tired to lie awake at night, but here I am up at my computer, asking for help from the best source of parenting advice I know. </p>
<p>My older S is in 8th grade in a "good" public school. I put "good" in quotation marks because while the school system looks great on the surface, I've come to believe after much agonizing that he does not belong there. I don't want him to continue in our system (and I want to take our younger son, now in 3rd grade, out as early as financially possible). </p>
<p>My S is very bright (scores in the upper reaches of the 99th percentile on standardized tests, both verbal and math) and has always been intensely interested in math and science, as well as many other areas (history, politics, social justice, languages, robotics, old movies, etc.) He is also extremely disorganized, and this has been a problem in school. In our district, the teachers select comments for the report cards from a menu, and the ones I have seen most frequently over the past few years are, "grade affected by missing work" and "a pleasure to have in class". By 6th grade he had pulled himself together enough to be on the honor roll or high honor roll every quarter. He has been accelerated in both math and science, and is now in 9th grade biology and 10th grade math. He has no problem with the content - in fact, he has felt for years that the pace was too slow in his accelerated math classes, and he asked last year to be excused from math class this year, proposing that he do math through EPGY. This request was initially agreed to by the principal, almost as a matter of course, but later denied because of objections from the teachers' union rep (!) </p>
<p>Last year was a terrible year, and after a few weeks of school it was clear that my son was miserable. There were several problem teachers, and he did not have a good mix of kids in his classes (very small district, and some scheduling problems because of his accelerated courses). He was quite articulate about what was wrong at school, essentially a lack of intellectual stimulation. Almost a year ago, he asked me to find out what he needed to do in the next 6 years to make sure he was admitted to MIT. He was quite serious and intent about it. When I asked him, he admitted that he saw his life as a dark tunnel with MIT as the light at the end. (Now that I've spent some time on CC, I know the score about college admissions, and my S understands and accepts the situation.) I immediately started the independent school application process, but later abandoned it after his first quarter grades came out - they had dived, and I felt sure he wouldn't be admitted anywhere.</p>