I was involved in an incident where an RA apparently saw me write [something obscene] and saw me disappear and didn’t even hear my door shut (quoting from report) and couldn’t confront me. I was most likely asleep during this time (12:30 on a Sunday night) and have no recollection of doing this action nor did I know that this occurred. I am deeply concerned about this because I am already on probation for an incident that’s totally unrelated (I’ve had a drug problem and been seeking treatment) I risk being suspended, expelled, or removed from housing. I sent the Dean (who I have a somewhat personal relationship with) an email claiming that I did not do this. I am currently very scared and don’t know what to do. What are my chances that a panel would believe me (the school doesn’t tell them about my past history)
*this was done on a white board outside the door
edited to remove the obscenity and some profanity. - juillet
Do you have a roommate who can vouch that you were in the room asleep at the time of the alleged incident? Why would the RA say it was you? Does the RA already know of the drug use and other issues, and is making assumptions?
I am concerned that you say you were “apparently” seen, and you have “no recollection” of this alleged incident you were involved in, and that you were “most likely” sleeping. Is there something more here? Not to be accusatory, but were you drunk or high when this incident is supposed to have happened? In your shoes, I would go to the academic advisor immediately and discuss your options. If you are in fact going to have to leave the school, at least try to ensure you can finish the academic period you are now in.
I think your parents also need to be informed of what has been going on. They need to understand what has been happening, so they can be part of the process. They might want to involve a lawyer, or advocate on your behalf. I don’t think this is soemthing you should just try to do on your own. Good luck.
Sounds like it might just be out of your hands now. You will just have to wait and see what the college rules. Good luck and hope it works out for you.
You live in a single and…? Is it possible you were involved in the alleged incident? If you want advice on an anonymous forum, it helps to be forthcoming.
If you are getting drunk or high to the point where you blackout and can’t remember what you did. It may be time to withdraw from school and go home and seek help. Your health comes 1st. What is going on with the panel is the least of your problems IMO.
Be thankful you are in college and remember what your goals are. Is that type of behavior the goal you set for yourself? Are you proud of your behavior? Is that type of behavior moving you towards your career goals? The purpose of college is to ultimately have a fulfilling career that allows you to be self-sufficient. If you have an addiction there is help available. A therapist can help you figure out why you feel compelled to self-medicate. What feelings are you trying to block out when you are high or drunk? If it’s anxiety try DBT therapy.