<p>My roommate likes to wake up early every day - 4 or 5am is the norm. Usually I don't care. I'm not that light of a sleeper so I thought it wouldn't be a problem. Could not be more wrong. </p>
<p>She takes about an hour to get ready before heading out, and in that time frame it sounds like she's pounding on everything with a sledgehammer. She doesn't know how to close doors, cabinets, dressers, etc. without slamming them at full force. As she's constantly opening and closing her cabinet to get and put away make up products, clothes, and hair products over the course of an hour, this becomes a huuuge deal. Sometimes she likes to play music or watch a movie while she's getting ready in the bathroom, and she does so without headphones and at full volume.</p>
<p>I've brought this up with her constantly last school term and each time it just ends in a gigantic argument with little progress. She accuses me of infringing on her rights to do the hell she wants in our shared apartment. She also thinks I'm personally attacking her way of life when I ask her to be more quiet.</p>
<p>I know part of it is we just come from different backgrounds - nothing wakes her and her family up, therefore quiet in the morning is a non-issue. The other part is the walls are thin and we share a wall with the bathroom she constantly blasts music in. </p>
<p>Now school's starting again soon, I'm going to have to deal with her soon. I've tried wearing earplugs, I've tried playing music through the night, but nothing can drown out Party Rock Anthem at 5 in the morning. I've gotten her to compromise on the movie - she puts it on mute since earphones are beneath her - but she felt that was doing more than enough for my sake. Any suggestions or ADVICE would be amazing. Or tell me your roommate problems and we can share the sorrow :P</p>
<p>Does she understand that she does not have the right to do whatever she wants in a shared apartment? That’s the first conversation I would have with her. If she is not willing to consider the needs of her roommates, she should live in a single apartment.</p>
<p>@b@r!um: That was the first convo I had with her, in fact, and I’ve concluded that in her mind her rights precede all others’ rights. x__X It’s not that she’s a horrible person, but she has trouble compromising. That includes “expending” the energy to not slam the door. From the way this has been going I’ll likely move out asap when our contract ends. thank you though. I agree - she should have looked a single apartment!</p>
<p>Do you live in an apartment complex? If so maybe you could get a different apartment (in the same building) and find a different roomie. Would that affect a lease?</p>
<p>I have a friend who has problems with her roommate too… If it’s on campus, see if there’s anything that you can possibly do about it. If it’s off campus, see about ending the lease or finding someone else to replace you for the rest of it. </p>
<p>Honestly, if nothing seems to work you should just do the same things to her. Waking her up and two am would be fun, LOL.</p>
<p>You should explain to her, in a very clear, blunt way, that you are not like her family, that you are, in fact, a light sleeper. She should respect that. If not, then I would seriously consider iShannon’s advice and start waking her bratty butt up at 2 a.m every morning. You don’t have to mean about it, of course, but just get the point across that it’s not fair to have your sleep constantly cut short because some diva won’t quiet down.</p>
<p>We used to have a downstairs neighbor that would do this - 2AM loud parties in the pool, shouting in the hallway, etc. first, I educated them which is often suprisingly effective “I am not a light sleeper. Your music resonates through the thin door. I have tried xyz.” When that didn’t work, I simply decided to give them a taste of their own medicine. As I left in the morning AFTER the party, I rang their doorbell incesstantly at 7AM untl they woke up. I said in the nicest voice possible “I am sorry to wake you up, but I want you to know that I have asked nicely several times for you not to use the pool after the posted hours. I want you to know that each and every time you do this, I will be ringing your doorbell every half hour as I get ready for work the next morning until you wake up.” It never happened again. I am guessing that if she wakes at 4 -5 she conks out before you. You may have to do something similar if she can’t listen. Sandwich the news with a positive "I like xyz about you. I want to keep a peaceful home and honor your requests. However acb. Again, I am telling you this ahead because I don’t want to disrupt your sleep, but I am out of ideas and I don’t want any additional resentment to build up and affect our relationship.</p>
<p>One other thing - as a door slammer myself, I honestly think that habit is extremely difficult to change as you do it unconciously. The music though? That needs to STOP.</p>
thank you though. I agree - she should have looked a single apartment!</p>