Help me deal with post-stalking stalkiness

<p>So... I could use some advice. The internet is a good place for this, usually. </p>

<p>TLDR: A guy who stalked me repeatedly is now joining all of my extracurricular activities and I don't know what to do. </p>

<p>Starting the summer before freshman year, there was a guy (an upperclassmen) who found my contact information through facebook and began talking to me. I was eager to meet new people, so I was friendly to him, even though I suspected he was a little bit off. He would talk a lot about sexual topics (at which point I'd stop responding) or ask me weird personal questions. He confessed that he was in love with me and I kind of ignored it because... I have a boyfriend and he knew that. Eventually I started avoiding him.</p>

<p>My freshman year started, and I had decided not to talk to him. I made friends easily. Then I started noticing a weird trend: he was friending all of my friends on facebook. He found my phone number through facebook and began texting me, asking me to meet up with him. I would just avoid the texts altogether and not respond.</p>

<p>Finally, he found me and figured out where I lived, and he would make awkward advances (running up to hug me when I obviously did not want to be within 10 feet of him, telling me how pretty I was, etc) whenever we saw each other on campus. Our campus is very small, only 6000 students, so people run into each other a lot and it's kind of not avoidable.</p>

<p>Then I would start getting random texts from him. Things like "You look hot in black ;)" when I was just walking around campus. It was like he was observing me from a distance and writing these weird commentaries. </p>

<p>Eventually I decided to stop being passive and I told him not to contact me anymore and that I felt uncomfortable around him, and I blocked him on facebook and AIM. </p>

<p>Two months later he found me eating breakfast at the library and wouldn't let me leave. He wanted to be friends again. He apologized for being creepy and said he had learned his ways. I said ok, but I was wary. I re-friended him on facebook, only to discover that all of his statuses were from things that I had posted in my personal online journal (poetry or random entries or whatever). I also found through googling the name of his journal that he has photo albums full of pictures of what appear to be underage girls (12-13) in their underwear or covering themselves (naked). I can't prove that they are underage, though, so I have not mentioned these to anyone. I had never even given him the link my journal, so I don't know how he got those posts. I unfriended him again and told him never to contact me again.</p>

<p>A little while ago he tried to contact me over AIM on a different screen name. I once again said 'don't contact me,' blocked him, and went to campus police. He was warned to have no further contact with me or he'd face university suspension and/or academic probation/criminal punishment for stalking.</p>

<p>Here's the issue: He is in my major, which is only about 50-60 students, so we are going to end up in a lot of the same classes. He also just joined the newspaper staff last week, where I am an editor. Based on a comment he made to another staffer, it seems like I am the reason he joined the staff (he had no interest in it for three years and now suddenly does.) He also joined the game interest group that I am an officer of. It's really creepy. The other officers on both staffs are my friends, and they know his history and know he's a weirdo, but we can't bar a guy from joining a campus club, right?</p>

<p>He also has tried to talk to me when he is at the meetings or at newspaper production with me. I have openly ignored him each time, but it's getting ridiculous.</p>

<p>What can I do? Where do I go from here? Advice would be awesome. Sorry this is so long.</p>

<p>First–Tell your parents!</p>

<p>Document every time he contacts you, speaks to you, etc. Change your phone number and only give it to your friends and family. Tell them not to give out your number. Delete your facebook account. If you really want to continue to use facebook, make a new account under a false name (do not put pictures on the account).
Remove yourself from the college online directory. </p>

<p>Make an appointment with the Dean and explain everything. Do not downplay the seriousness of the situation. Tell the Dean what has been going on with this weirdo.<br>
Email your professors (of the classes you have with the stalker) and fill them in on the story. Walk with a buddy as often as possible.</p>

<p>If he does anything threatening at all (such as not letting you leave), call the local police.</p>

<p>If the Dean, Campus Police, and the local police can’t guarantee to keep this guy away from you, you may want to seriously consider transferring. If you do go this route, don’t tell anyone at your current school because if this stalker is determined, he’ll find a way to get the info from someone at your current school.</p>

<p>way to share your phone number on facebook.</p>

<p>^Yeah, cause you can’t figure it out other ways if you really want to.</p>

<p>I don’t have it up there anymore. :confused: Before this guy I had never had anyone use my number for weird or inappropriate things. it was always just friends trying to get in contact with me.</p>

<p>I don’t know about you but I would make this into a reality TV show or a soap opera of some sort.</p>

<p>Seems like you guys would make a cute couple.</p>

<p>Yay Facebook!</p>

<p>Being stalked is totally worth getting set your status as “Just woke up, super tired”</p>

<p>Definitely worth it…</p>

<p>Try to see if you can extort any money out of him before seriously reporting him to anyone who cares about the school.</p>

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yeah right
why you gotta tell us this then tell us he joined all your clubs, talked to you, and is still in school?
we are the wrong people to talk to. talk to police again man. what he’s doing is considered harassment and at any school that considers itself a school, this is grounds for severe and harsh punishment</p>