<p>Ive been hanging out with this girl lately and everything was going really well. We have a lot in common and I have taken her out a few times in which she had a great time. things have escalated kind of slow physically--she said she wanted this from the very beginning--so we have just made out. now for the past 10 days or so i have only seen her sporadically, which is fine we have tried to hang out but its midterms and whatever, but we still talked a lot online and by texting and flirted a lot. however, she has gotten really, really, sick with a terrible strain of the flu combined with a respriatory infection. we couldnt hang out on the weekend because she wasnt feeling well which wasnt a big deal so we did some studying on sat. on monday we had lunch and i know she was very sick but she was being very aloof and nonreceptive but she wanted to get lunch with me. she has had a ton of work on top of this, but i am just confused because since she got sick she has just stopped initiating conversation with me pretty much, she is never online. am i just looking too into this. the problem is that i am going to the DR for spring break and im not sure if it would be bad to get with other girls then. i really only want to be with this one, but she has just been so aloof and distant from me. i text her everyday to see how its going but her responses are rather terse. i just want to be with her but i want to have fun on spring break if i cant.</p>
<p>if she is very very sick like you just said than it’s [“it’s” as in the way she is acting to you] the sickness. The situation has much more of an influence on the indivdual than people think.</p>
<p>If I had a terrible strain of the flu, like you mentioned she has, i would not be a happy camper at all. in fact, i would be a “****ed off pedro” so to speak [im not happy when im sick]…</p>
<p>Note: around 6 billion people on this earth exist, and that is just 1/6,000,000,000 of its resedent’s opinion.</p>
<p>Leave her alone. It’s her move to make if she wants to make it.
Go have fun on your spring break.</p>
<p>I guess im just kinda sad that i wasnt able to have that conversation of, what are we doing?, like i thought we would be able to. i think i may just be being paranoid because we havent gotten to hang out like we were and it will go back to normal when we get back but i dont want her to upset because im hooking up with other girls. even at first when she couldnt hang out when she was sick she was very apologetic and by sick i mean she has been to our health services like five times in the past few days. i just feel really lousy, because im being so selfish. i asked her if somethign was wrong between us and she asked, why would anything be wrong. im just very immature in these situations.</p>
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<p>Really? I mean, it’s not like this is at all immature:</p>
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<p>Have you considered not hooking up with random people? I think that might make her feel like you actually care about her on some level.</p>
<p>Bring her chicken soup one day and see if you guys can talk when you bring it over.</p>
<p>Go, have fun on Spring Break, and then reconnect with her when you get back to campus. She’s probably feels like crap and if she’s like me, she doesn’t want to be bothered when she’s that sick.</p>
<p>Ever considered just being direct and ask the question? While I would agree the ball is in her court, perhaps she had higher expectations of your care and concern when she was sick. Maybe she felt you were avoiding her. In any event, at this point it is what it is and you just have to ask. As I like to say… what’s the worst that can happen? There are essentially three choices. The worst? She says she is not into you, can’t explain it exactly and then, you’re off on spring break to nurse your wounds in whatever reasonable way you’d care to. Option 2, which will open the door to talking things out: she could explain her behavior by saying I was sick and got behind and so now I have all this work to do and now it’s midterms. I really like you but need to go with my priorities right now. OR she’ll say, no no no… I AM into you and thought you had cooled when I was sick. (or similarly relaying, I like you a lot.</p>
<p>We’re not talking brain surgery here. If you want a meaningful relationship you have to give it meaning. Even if you text her asking something like… "Hey… I miss seeing you more often. Since we haven’t of late, I was just wondering if I should be buying the book, “She’s just not that into you?” Then the ball is squarely in her court. </p>
<p>You either put yourself out there or you don’t. If you choose the former, you will live life with fewer regrets of “what if.” You seem like a thoughtful guy… so, what side of life are you going to live?</p>
<p>Don’t hook up with random people. :)</p>
<p>No offense, but if I were her, I wouldn’t want to be bothered with some dip **** who was hooking up with other girls either. </p>
<p>She deserves better. Respect this and move on.</p>
<p>the thing was i have gone out of my way. i was offered to hang out with her one night when she was sick and all her friends went out, she told me she was too sick. i also told her if she needed anything i was there for her, because i understand how stressful it is when u r sick. she just hasnt been very responses to any of me trying to be nice. granted i may have overdid it, the first few times she said thanks and you are sweet and whatever.
also, i DONT want to hook up with randoms, im not like that, i was just saying more hypothetically.<br>
i dont want to ask because i think it might just all be in my head and it will just be really awkward and shell just say, uhhhhh i have had the flu, what do you expect?</p>
<p>i think you’re looking too far in to this. if she is truly that sick, her reaction is understandable imo.</p>
<p>thank you all. the stress of my exams got to me and i was being psychotic and selfish. luckily all of this was just kept to me. like usual i just got all worked up for nothing i’m sure.<br>
thank you for allowing me to vent (so this didn’t get back 2 her)</p>
<p>Hey bud don’t worry about it I was in the exact same position like 2 weeks ago. She’s just not really in a good mood when she’s sick and was probably resting up (and trying to frantically make up missed school work) while her head hurts and everythings just miserable. Just ask her how she’s feeling and if she doesnt want to talk, that’s fine too, she’s sick. Go have a fun spring break since youre in no way official with her, and then come back and rekindle it up.</p>