<p>How can I make myself be less boring during (the lack of) conversations? </p>
<p>Often times, I just don't have anything to say. It's not that I'm shy. Because I'm not. It's just.. I have a really hard time thinking about what to say to people. Of course if someone is going to ask me a question I'll respond. But the thing is, I can't seem to keep a conversation going unless the person I'm talking to keeps asking me questions.</p>
<p>like one on one conversations? well, you could always ask the same question back to them. for example, they ask you what sports you play or what movie you like, when you answer, ask them the same thing in an interested way. also, maybe elaborate a lot, or bring up things that anyone can comment on (like the news or movies). i dunno, tell interesting stories. yeah i suck at advice, but good luck anyway.</p>
<p>Yeah, one of the best ways to start & hold a conversation is to find a topic in which you both have strong/well-thought out opinions about. For example, pretend you don't like a certain character from a reality TV show, etc. Just my $0.02!</p>
<p>try to develop a sense of humor and smiling alot really helps</p>
<p>Smile....people are more reciprocal if u smile!!</p>
<p>but if u're only goin to smile, after a while the other person is goin to feel really awkward and weird!</p>
<p>^ haha true!</p>
<p>Yeah if you and the other person have something in common, just talk about that. Like, with my aquintences, i'm just like "hey did you have a soccer game on saturday?" just for the hell of it.</p>
<p>But if you really have no idea what the other person is interested in, the saftest thing i suggest is: "what did you do in the weekend?" (mon-tues) or "Do you have any plans in the weekend?" (thurs-fri)</p>
<p>I don't know what you'd say on wednesday..? Talk about the tv show on tuesday night..
or bit ch about one of your teachers</p>
<p>^ What happens when I can't think of anything else to ask? I don't want to talk to someone about (for example) the OC every Friday, saying, "So how did you like the OC episode last night?" I think that'd be a bit repetitive.</p>
<p>it might be repetitive but not really. i used to talk about weekly shows with my friends and classmates all the time.</p>
<p>Find a common enemy/annoyance (like a teacher, a certain assignment, the way your school is run etc). Even if it doesn't bug you that much, act like it does. It'll give you both something to talk about which may lead to more discussion, and then use what everyone else said (repeating questions, asking about weekend plans).</p>
<p>If you ONLY talk about what annoys you, it's too negative so just use it as an icebreaker or to get the conversation started. Just stay away from gray areas like fellow students or something the other person may like. I've got some essential "prepared" monologues I can deliver on a certain hated practice at my school. It's not like I've tried to memorize it but it makes people laugh, and it gets them talking so I use it if I'm in a situation with people I don't know very well or if it's too quiet and uncomfortable.</p>
<p>I don't have any advice for you, but I just want to let you know that I have this EXACT same problem. Last night I went out with my choir to California Pizza Kitchen, and not knowing the other people well, I had no idea how to carry on conversation. Take solace in the fact that you're not the only one with this problem.</p>
<p>You could also look at the bright side, at least you don't talk too much. Usually if I carry on a conversation with somebody I scare them half to death because I talk so much.... That's not really a good thing either.... I guess a picture of both would be the best.... Good luck anyways, just try having some standard questions that you can ask somebody... and keep using them on different people until you get the flow of things.</p>