<p>Okay so this won't be completely like "I have no friends" thread because I have been putting myself out there (e.g. going to club events, talking - interactively, sharing info). Still I've only made one friend (genuine) in my year - which is fine - and have met graduated students, but still...it would be nice to have (genuine) friends in my year.</p>
<p>I've tried to engage my roommates in conversations, invited them to meals, etc. but they're show no interest, which I guess is fine because they have their own lives and all and I shouldn't expect to be best friends with them. But they show almost completely no interest - completely. I ask a question (basically not intrusive ex. how was your day?) They answer with a simple answer that makes it almost impossible to expand the conversation (so I ask another...but then it kind of gets to a point where I'm almost "interrogating" them).</p>
<p>I don't click with my floor mates - and I'm not going to change myself extremely for that (I understand that you need to mold yourself a little to make friends, but I'm not going to betray myself)</p>
<p>And most people I've met already have created their own groups and don't seem willing to let an "outsider" in...</p>
<p>I know I have faults (who doesn't?), but I am over all a very accepting (open-minded), decent person (if I have harmed anyone, sorry)...</p>
<p>/rant</p>
<p>So...any advice on how to get out of this awkward position? Is time all there is or what?</p>
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<p>That’s happened to me before with a former girlfriend. I’m pretty crappy at making small talk so it was a definite wind in my sails killer when I get “don’t talk to me” responses. Unfortunately there’s nothing you can really do. You just have to get over the fact that you can’t hit it off with everyone you meet.</p>
<p>Do you really care how his day was? Thats something my mother asks me because she is being intrusive into my life. Instead of asking somewhat pointless questions, why don’t you go out and invite them out. If they say no, then go out anyway. If you have no friends then go out by yourself. Stay active and you will start to attract active people into your life. </p>
<p>Always invite people, never invite yourself… NEVER! You could put people off by inviting yourself. You have to have things to do, so try to get hobbies and sign up for some sports or activities of some kind. </p>
<p>All of my roommates have been quite frankly jerks. The best way to deal with them is to stay incredibly busy and frequently invite them out. You don’t care about their day so don’t ask. You just want to make friends, but that conversation starter you have chosen is awkward. Don’t ask pointless questions. If you are really desperate to make friends with them ask them directly, “Hey I want to have a comfortable relationship with you and I am trying to make that happen by forcing it.” That is basically what you are saying when you ask him how his day was. Not because the words you use, but because of the reason why you are asking it.</p>
<p>Yeah, if you don’t honestly care about the answer, don’t ask th question. Always invite them out though. Thats just being polite and showing that you really would like to be friends with them.</p>