<p>Edit title: Help: My interviewer has been asking me unusual requests.</p>
<p>Hey guys,</p>
<p>Briefly, I'm an international student from Europe, and was accepted to Columbia College. My Columbia interviewer was very rude when we did the interview. Arriving two hour past the scheduled time, speaking to me like I'm stupid..etc. Anyhow, I shrugged it off, and didn't let it affect my view of Columbia, or how I acted in front of him. Figured it's just his personality.</p>
<p>Well, now, I got into other schools higher on my list, and will not be going to Columbia. However, my interviewer is still contacting me telling me I need to do some internship with him, and arrange meetings to some science fairs in my country, and now he has asked to go to his office next week without stating why I need to do that. I have work, and other things to do (things that I believe got me into Columbia.) So I'm not sure how I'm supposed to respond. I can't just ignore him, that would be rude of me, but I can't just skip work for no apparent reason. And I'm a little paranoid that he might sabotage my acceptances to the other schools. (I know it sounds silly.. but I can't help but feel that way)</p>
<p>What am I supposed to do now? Any help would be really appreciate! I thought about contacting Columbia directly, but that might be worse..</p>
<p>Email him
"Thank you for the offer. But I am unable to meet with you nor do an internship with you. I will be attending school X this September. Thank you for representing Columbia to me.</p>
<p>Sincerely,
John12W"</p>
<p>If he replies, reply back “I am unable to accept your offer. Was I not clear?”</p>
<p>If he replies again, contact Columbia immediately.</p>
<p>T26E4’s first email is exactly right - gracious and to the point. No further explanation is needed.</p>
<p>Don’t quite agree with the second email, though. The “Was I not clear?” portion is quite rude. If a second email should become necessary, keep it polite and gracious: “Thank you, but I am unable to accept your offer.” And agree ABSOLUTELY that Columbia should be contacted immediately should that second email become necessary.</p>
<p>^^ I agree. The 2nd reply shouldnt contain needless adversarial language. Omitting it would be better. To the OP: good luck. You shouldn’t have to endure this imbecile.</p>
<p>Also, make sure that some adult in your life is aware of the name of the interviewer who continues to contact you for these things, and copy admissions at Columbia on the email you send the interviewer. Just to create a paper trail to the interviewer in case it gets knotty.</p>
<p>If he/she knows that Columbia is aware you have asked him/her to stop contacting you, it will be faster.</p>
<p>Hey guys. Thank you so much for all the suggestions!</p>
<p>I emailed him, and he got back to me. He made sure to let me know that I made a “poor choice” in choosing Yale over Columbia, and that I would later regret it in life, but wished me good luck in New Haven. So I’m assuming that was the end of it! if not, I will make sure to email him again politely and cc Columbia. </p>
<p>It’s totally your call on this but if you have any affinity to Columbia, then I would report this person’s actions and communications to Columbia’s admissions office.</p>
<p>This person is a terrible representative for Columbia. What he did to you, he does to other potential Columbia applicants. Call/email admissions and get them to reel that guy in. </p>
<p>My thought to his cutting remark to you about Yale is “If your manners are a product of Columbia, then I count myself blessed to be at Yale”</p>
<p>Columbia would not want an interviewer to behave this way!!! You would be doing them a favor to let them know and it would be a kindness to future high school students not to have to endure this completely unprofessional behavior!</p>
<p>This person sounds very creepy. First, don’t worry about offending him if he were to contact you again. Second, please forward his inappropriate e-mail to Columbia. If he is trying to arrange unusual meetings with you, he surely is with other applicants.</p>
<p>If you haven’t done so already, that last email he sent you should ABSOLUTELY be forwarded to Columbia!</p>
<p>just write a short note saying: “I received this from interviewer X and found it inappropriate.” And then attach his email. You don’t even need to mention the earlier communications from him if you don’t want to.</p>
<p>I’m sure Columbia has an abundance of alumni interviews in the U.S., but that’s not necessarily so in Europe. So they may not vet their European interviewers as much as they might like. You’d be doing Columbia a HUGE favor by bringing this guy to their attention.</p>
<p>I’m a college interviewer who received a report from a parent about someone in another region who was inappropriate. It is VERY important to forward or blind copy the college on the correspondence, and make sure your response is polite, but includes the person’s original comments to you.</p>
<p>Could be that the interviewer is just excited and socially awkward - but there are rules and boundaries, and I fear this person is overstepping them.</p>