HELP NEEDED - girl asked me to prom and I said yes in front of class.. but i dont

Pre-College Issues High School Life
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<p>in class actually a girl asked me to prom. yeah.. well it makes sense for a girl to ask a guy if he knew her / he flirted with her, but i dont really know the girl that much at all and i only talk to her in one class.. and dind't know her previously. and im not into her at all. shes not attractice and kind of annoying. but im just kind of friends with her and talk to her in that class. when i talk to her i obvioulsy dont flirt or anything.. I was really surprised and taken off guard when she asked me in the middle of class.</p>

<p>So obviously I said yes because it was in the middle of the whole class. But honesty, I don't really want to go to prom with her. I don't even know her very well, we're just kind of friends. she's kind of annoying. And I'm not into her at all, shes not hot at all and has an annoying personality. I don't want to go to prom with her! ahhh. Plus she asked me.. which makes it worse. </p>

<p>So, what should I do?</p>

<p>shes a nice girl and all.. but ahh im just not interested in her. now i'd jhave to spend like 100 for tickets, get new clothes, limo, etc. etc.. and barely any of my friends are going too.. plus im not big on dancing.. so i really dont want to go.. so should i:?</p>

<p>Should I just go with her, even though I dont want to and try to have a fun time and stuff...?</p>

<p>Or should I tell her nicely somehow I don't want to go. I'd probably have to tell her quickly. Because I actually don't want to go. it happened today. But then I'd feel bad she'd probably be sad and I don't want to be all awkward with her.</p>

<p>But I don't want to go with her!! ahhh.. and now i deffinetly cant ask anyone else.. this sucks.
i dont wanna be a dick.. but yea i dont wanna go with her.. i was maybe going to ask another girl, but i was probably just not going to go this year. im only a jr. so next year id go for sure.</p>

<p>so yeah what should i do??? if i do say no i'd obviously have to do it quick.. </p>

<p>HELP ME im kind of ****ed.. that was way to bold of her .. i've shown signs even that i dont like her.. and now she put me on the spot.. and i said yes... ahhh.. HELP then afterwords a couple people went up and heard your going with ______. so apprarently she told some people.. </p>

<p>ahhhh</p>

<p>HELP ME.. i'll probably send her a message on fb tonight cus i dont know her number. but what should i say?? or should i just go with her?? shes a jr. i dont wanna be a dick.. but i really dont want to go..</p>

<p>ladies.. and guys.. what should i do?? haha and what should i say in my message if i do send her one?? i know how special prom is for girls.. ahhh HELP</p>

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<p>You should say… Lets meet for coffee… and then explain your feelings, including apologizing. Time to man up… </p>

<p>This can be a good learning experience, we have all done things that we regretted later, Welcome to the club.</p>

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<p>You already said yes, and telling her you decided different would be a very cruel thing to do, especially since she probably told all of her friends, made plans, etc. I would just stick it out.</p>

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<p>thanks for the quick feedback dude ncmentor.</p>

<p>well, how would i explain my feelings? just say lets go get coffee… then say… actually i didnt’ really have plans to go to prom… so dont take it personally but i dont want to go with you… your a nice girl, maybe you can find someone else?? i would have no clue what to say and that would be really hard. i wont see her live til monday… so a quick fb message i think might be best… cus i should do it quick</p>

<p>anways thankss… any one else can u help me!</p>

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<p>and also she really put me on the spot and the whole class / teacher were just looking… it would’ve been impossible to say no almost… ahhh</p>

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<p>Erm, instead of saying yes or no…you should have said that “I made other plans wiht my family to go have a nice dinner outside or some bs”</p>

<p>but now, your stuck lol. if you really don’t wanna go, just tell her (before you do this however, try and find someone else for her lol to make your rejection not hurt that much)</p>

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<p>well, how would i explain my feelings? - did you read your own 1st post ? you did a good job explaining your feelings there, now just tell her. If your clear about everything you can go on and go to the prom and invite someone else if you want. But be kind and clear… Good Luck</p>

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<p>If you’re going to have a bad time and you’ll lose all of that money, screw it.</p>

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<p>Very true. Prom would entail tux rental, food, perhaps limo, prom tickets, not to mention your dignity in this case.</p>

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<p>She asked you. You shouldn’t have to buy tickets. When a girl asked my son to prom, she paid and also provided the transportation. Whoever asks is the host.</p>

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<p>tell her you’ve just realized you have something very important to do that same night. That way, it’ll be less rude.</p>

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<p>Well, do you not want to go to prom at all?
If you don’t, just say you changed your mind about going.</p>

<p>Either way you’re going to have to be honest.</p>

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<p>Goin to prom when you dont want to and with someone you dont really know is not a good combination. Hmm, maybe you can tell her that you have a serious family issue that suddenly came up, hopefully she will understand.
The you can suggest someone else for her to go with, and then you ask someone else to ask her to prom.</p>

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<p>Yeah I don’t agree with the people who are telling you to just “stick it out” and go. Prom can become very expensive, and if you force yourself to go when you seem extremely against it is a bad idea, and you’d probably resent her for that later anyway. Just tell it to her privately and gently. If you tell her soon I think she’d understand.</p>

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<p>Post pics.</p>

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<p>unless you were planning on asking someone else you better go with her. make her pay for her own ticket. you don’t have to go out with her for the rest of your life, it’s just one night.
but whatever you do, don’t facebook the bad news for christs sake!!!</p>

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<p>damn you screwed up. I think u should tell the truth. You were under pressure and only said yes because it was done publicly and that u really dont want to go this year( even if you do, u cant after this). ur in one hell of a spot man. hope u get out without hurting feelings or looking like a jerk.</p>

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<p>Well, girls have been going through this for centuries! Not wanting to hurt somebody’s feelings…but…not really wanting to go. Would you be going with a group or just the two of you? If it’s a group thing, then so what? Low pressure, and you can explain to her before you go that you “don’t have feelings for her” but you didn’t want to embarrass her and since you weren’t planning on asking anyone else…Give her a chance to back out or to go as just friends with a group. If it’s just going to be the two of you, you probably have to cancel as gently as you possibly can. Please don’t do it by text!</p>

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<p>I don’t think it was fair of her to put you under the spotlight like that. Explain the situation to her privately, just tell her the truth.</p>

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<p>You can tell her that you talked it over with your parents and they don’t think that it’s appropriate for you to be going as a junior. It easy, simple, totally believable, and it doesn’t make you look like the bad guy. Or you can just be honest with her.</p>