Hi all,
New to this forum, having some difficulties with NCP Waiver Request. Completing this form for two schools - currently have my statement, custodial parent statement, and third-party statement. This will probably be a long post, but I desperately need answers!
Problems arise in regards to my third-party statement: my parents separated in 2009 due to my NCP’s abuse, and were divorced in 2012, but I never saw any therapists during that time. So, my third-party statement is from my current therapist, and she’s basically written that we’ve worked together for just 2 semesters at my current community college, and that I’ve reported to her that I’ve had no contact with NCP for seven years (since 2009) due to abuse. Do you think this is good enough to grant me, or at least support, a waiver request?
Additionally, I have a copy of the divorce decree, but there’s no official court-ordered limit on contact, so I don’t think it will add anything. I am waiting on a copy of a restraining order from 2009 (when child abuse by my NCP first occurred, leading to my parents’ separation) to substantiate my claim of abuse and no contact (should I even mention the abuse without documentation?) but I’m worried about deadlines.
I’m a spring transfer, so the deadline is Nov. 1st. I’m worried that if I wait to receive the RO and then send off the waiver requests, my request won’t be granted or denied before Nov. 1st deadline - and therefore, since I haven’t completed the NCP info, I’d be out of luck in regards to institutional aid.
My custodial parent and I also have a fraught relationship, so I’m really figuring this out on my own. Answers or opinions would be truly appreciated. 
We have no way of knowing if your therapist’s statement will be sufficient. I think it will depend on the reviewer’s thoughts. Ideally you get the abuse and no contact statements to support the request. Is there any way to rush that?
I’d send in the request immediately and state that you have requested a copy of the restraining order from XX Court. Although you might want to keep things private, be VERY specific about the incident that caused the restraining order to be issued, if it was issued for you or your CP, if there are other children who also were included. Give as much detail as you can (weapons, physical assaults, drugs, arrests). A statement of the situation is evidence, and the restraining order will help support it but it will not give the details.
Hi twoinanddone,
I actually called both schools’ Fin Aid offices, and they recommended attaching a statement that said I am waiting on a document and will forward it once received & if needed by the schools. So, mentioning specific abuse details is a good idea? My mom was concerned that the colleges did not want to hear this. I did already mention the abuse in detail in my student statement (the date it occurred, that I was a minor at the time, how it caused my parents’ separation, & what type of assault it was). Do you think that this is the right place to mention it, or should I describe the abuse incident in detail on the note about the RO instead?
Hi Erin’s Dad,
There is, unfortunately, no way to rush the RO. However, I do have all of my statements (student, custodial parent, and counselor) which support the claim of no contact for seven years.
If your statement is specific, that should be enough (with the document to follow). You are asking for an exception to providing the NCP information, so the burden is on you to provide the clearest picture possible to the FA office.