<p>I didn't quite know where to post this but this form seemed like the right place. Anyway I need your help. I the beginning of the school year I transferred colleges because I was at a college I didn't like because of the small minded high school like social atmosphere. Well it looks like transferring schools was a bad idea because now I have found more of the same. People here are so snobby cliquish and so judgemental. On top of that I have a commuter student at a mostly residential college and I work a part time job off campus. No matter what I do no matter what groups I join, I just can't fit in in this place. It is really taking a toll on me and starting to make me depressed. It's gotten to the point where I am struggling in some of my classes. The idea of getting up and going to school everyday depresses me and has caused me to struggle academically. I am quite certain that my one professor thinks I'm a slacker. That really isn't the case. I am a nice guy going through a hard time. What can I do to convince my professor I'm really not a slacker and how can I ask her for help? I just don't know where to start with her. What can I do about the situation in general? Please help. Thank you.</p>
<p>Ask the teacher if you can have a meeting with them or go meet a counselor. If you hate the college, try taking online classes or finding a college that best fits you. Try visiting different colleges before enrolling.</p>
<p>Since you have found issues with the social atmosphere at both places, you might want to think about where you are looking, in regards to people at the school. It sounds like you are anxious and overly worried about what everyone else thinks. So what if your teacher thinks you are a slacker. My guess is that he/she doesn’t actually think about students that much at all. You are not nearly as important to him as he is to you. </p>
<p>No matter where you go in life there will be people that get together and act/think that they are better than everyone else. The cliques happen at school, work,church, probably in any organization that has many people involved. But it is a mistake to think that everybody is like that. Maybe all that you see is the negatives. You see the cliques but not the other people that are not involved or the least bit interested in all that. </p>
<p>Maybe instead of looking to transfer and get into another situation, try to change your attitude about where you are. There are without a doubt tons of other students that feel like they don’t fit in either. Fitting in should not be on your list of priorities. Relax and try very hard to find positive aspects every day in your life. A little bit of positive energy goes a long way.</p>