<p>One waived it, the other reduced. I'm not attending the one that reduced my waiver. That school's smaller, and the person that got it waived knows me. I feel guilty.
I'm not sure if the deposits mean that I've committed to them. I'm wasting their time and mine by not making a decision. It's just so hard. I'm getting a job soon, and I'm more than willing to pay the waived portion of the deposit to the other school.</p>
<p>The one that was waived got waived months ago, and only because my parent made me do it. I didn't want to...</p>
<p>What do I do?</p>
<p>I feel extremely guilty. I don't mind going to either, as long as I go somewhere. I'm extremely afraid right now. How could this happen? Damn it all.</p>
<p>I really need some help. Would anyone be willing to read my letter of apology?</p>
<p>Do not let the waived deposit thing push you in that direction, go to the school that is the best match in most ways, college is a business after all, and people are used to people changing their minds for various reasons and won't take it personally.</p>
<p>So make your decision ASAP, send in a nice letter of regret, and let it go.</p>
<p>Life happens, and it is okay to change your mind, but it is best to notify them right away.</p>
<p>It will be okay, no body will hate you or be mad at you, and if they, they will get over it, they are adults and used to this stuff.</p>
<p>Again, write the letter, mail it, and let it go.</p>
<p>So, the school that waived the deposit months ago, is the one that you DO WANT to go to? </p>
<p>And the one that reduced the amount of deposit is the school where you recently sent the $$ in, and you DON'T WANT to attend?</p>
<p>I am confused.</p>
<p>Well, if I got that right............FIRST, make a phonecall to the school that you wish to attend, to make sure that you are indeed still on their roster, and confirm that your deposit is waived and that they are not expecting anything at this time. No need to say anything more. Tell them that you have not received anything in writing yet, like a confirmation of enrollment. You should have something in writing before calling the other school to cancel.</p>
<p>Then make a phonecall to the school that you sent $$ to, that you don't want to attend, and explain that you were confused, and that a school that had waived your deposit has considered you as being enrolled there, and you have to honor that committment, and you are sorry for inadvertently sending in a deposit here.</p>
<p>I agree with the above posters - you need to clear the air with both schools, then send a brief letter to the school you won't be attending. As chocoholic suggests, call the school you want to attend FIRST and make sure you are enrolled. Then call the school you are declining.</p>
<p>PS, if you haven't figured this out already, the school that waived your deposit did that as part of their marketing program -- and you should never feel guilty about declining a marketing offer. Your life, your decision.</p>
<p>from post #4, last para: "....and that a school that had waived your deposit has considered you as being enrolled there, and you have to honor that committment...."</p>
<p>I wonder here, and I'm not sure, but I'm going to say: Be careful! I hope you don't have to say the name of the other school where you shall attend to the one you don't plan to attend. And don't let them make you name it, either; I don't think you owe them that info.
You didn't do anything so wrong, but isn't there some issue over one school calling the other and getting you rescinded? That's what I'm wondering/worrying on your behalf here.</p>
<p>I haven't gotten the hang of your story yet, and found your post confusing (ok, you're stressed, but it wasn't a clear retelling for someone brand new to your story!) Anyways, just be careful to speak only what you need to say on the phone. If your parents are very sharp and smart, you might ask them handle that tricky call (with the second college).</p>
<p>Exactly, Paying3tuitions, it's not necessary and maybe even a bad idea to mention any names of schools while you are speaking to them. Very often larger schools don't even care terribly if you don't attend after sending in the deposit. But it does seem in the OP's case, that they are turning down the little school for the big one. Avoid mentioning names.</p>
<p>Poster has also discussed this here <a href="http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/showthread.php?t=344262%5B/url%5D">http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/showthread.php?t=344262</a></p>
<p>I hope we can all encourage Alchemy to just get this done and thus get rid of the guilt and anxiety. I don't think it's a huge problem if Alchemy just withdraws acceptances from some schools. It can be done by mail. Schools expect a summer melt and the student doesn't really need to even give a reason why the student will not be attending.</p>
<p>Decide where you want to go.
Tell them
YOu have decided to not attend. Don't give a reason and don't mention other schools.
I am sure you are not the only person to do this. However it is a no no, and should be rectified asap. THat said, this is NOT the end of the world. Keep it short simple and fax it.
If you are axing the one that you sent the deposit in for, you can't lose by asking for all or a portion back. Never hurts to ask.</p>