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Pre-College Topics High School Life
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<p>I have a big big problem, and before you run off, please hear me out.</p>

<p>I am a 19 year old guy who has been posting on this particular forum [I won’t reveal the name], but I have been pretending I’m a girl for all this time. Now before you call me a pedophile or child molester, let me tell you that I have in no way been mean or cruel to anyone; in fact all I have ever done is have friendly conversations with the other people on the forum. Now you may wonder…what am I telling you this? Well, my conscience is driving me crazy. There are these two girls who I regularly private message (one living in Eastern Europe and another living in Australia, and I’m become really good friends with them) and they think I’m this whole other person. I also told them I’m going to this Yale (I don’t really) to impress them. I guess when I first started, I wanted to create a whole new persona because I’m this unpopular guy who’s fat and no one really likes, so I thought if I became this whole other person, I could at least enjoy a little popularity. I was wrong, and now I can’t turn back.<br>
So you might be wondering why I’m confessing. Well I need advice. Should I tell my two friends the truth or what? If I stop posting, then they’ll just email me and I can’t bear telling them that I’ve quit. I sort of came up with an idea like this: Next year, if I really do get into Yale, I create a nickname that is the TRUE me, and say I’m this (fake me) girl’s friend. Then I slowly let the fake me’s nick die off, and post more and most on the real me nick.
Any other ideas? People, please respond. I’m desperate. </p>

<p>Jake</p>

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<p>Are you serious? </p>

<p>If they e-mail you, tell them everything. I'm sorry, but I find it kind of funny - can you post their reactions on here? </p>

<p>lol.</p>

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<p>since when did CC become a rent-a-friend service? seriously dude, put things in perspective. your worrying over some over the internet girls you want to impress? it just doesnt make sense... i think there are chat rooms for those type of things. it seems like youve thought about this way too much and no offense, but you should find a hobby that takes up time you spend over worrying about little things like these.. </p>

<p>p.s. work on your self-esteem too. fat people are often really funny and nice and easy to get along with.</p>

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<p>worth2try, that was pretty insensitive.</p>

<p>You're overthinking it. Just do it - let them know what's really going on. Will they continue talking to you? Probably not. Still, since its weighing so heavily on your mind, it's best to fix it asap. We all mistakes, and there's always a consequence. There's no romantic way out of something like this. Be a man by showing yourself that you can confront a dilemma and move on.</p>

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<p>It would be kinda funny if your 'girlfriends' are in the same position you are.</p>

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<p>^^</p>

<p>LOL that's good</p>

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<p>Wait, no they are just friends, not girlfriends. All we ever talk about are things like school, whats new in our country, things like that.</p>

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<p>And also, we've been talking to each other for more than half a year, so I wonder how they will take it; I mean, these are really nice girls I'm talking about (they're both 21)</p>

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<p>Just tell the truth and work on your own self-esteem.</p>

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<p>Sucks to be you man. Why would you do that? Or is this a troll?</p>

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<p>I wanted attention, and no I'm not a troll.</p>

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<p>Okay, I would stop, cold turkey</p>

<p>Lose their numbers, their names, block them, whatever it takes, but NO MORE CONTACT</p>

<p>telling them will make you feel better, but just creep and freak them out</p>

<p>on the other hand, telling them will give them good warning that internet relationships should looked at very carefully</p>

<p>so decide to tell or not to tell, but whatever you do, cease all contact</p>

<p>and, look inside to see why you really felt the need to do that</p>

<p>If it were me, and someone had done that< I would be so embarrassed and would want nothing to do with you, and a bit scared I was fooled so easily</p>

<p>This is actually a very good story you are sharing, there have been posters here who talk about online romances and friendships and meeting and you show how easy it is to fool people, even without the worst intentions</p>

<p>Thank you for being honest and I think once you have decided what to do, besides never doing that again, you should create a new thread, get ready for some razzing, but show others how easy it was to fool people</p>

<p>that will ease your mind a bit, perhaps</p>

<p>good for you for realizing what a mistake you made and trying to fix it</p>

<p>and being willing to take the fallout here by the perfect people</p>

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<p>The other thing is, you're not the first person to get involved with online "friends" under a false identity.
In all honesty, the internet is a sketchy thing. I'd recommend loosing contact with them; you'll grow apart from them and be happy that you've returned to a life of people that you know for who they are and people that know you for who you are.</p>

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<p>yeah nice one citygirlsmom haha</p>

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<p>thanks citygirlsmom, i'm taking your advice: no more contact</p>

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<p>ok, if ppl had to claim some form of legitimacy before posting, we wouldn't have psycho weirdos ranting about perfect ECs and Perfect SAT's and perfect everything except for my 99 in calculus BC, and good honest normal people going into epileptic shock reading those things because they seem so incredible that they have to be real.</p>

<p>(the person using this alias has posted such a story on this SN and another)</p>

<p>just a word in for the common man.
Look, gullible's written on the ceiling!</p>

<p>(someone actually wrote that on the library comp room ceiling at my school)</p>

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<p>I've always noticed that there was something "off" about you. You seemed abnormally preoccupied with sex and physical attractiveness, more so than the average teenaged boy. The topics you bring up seem really "adult" and unusual. For this reason and others, I always thought that you were an adult, or worse, a pedophile. I don't know. That was just my impression, and I've always been good at spotting pedophiles (I hope I'm wrong). Anyway, I'm glad you finally revealed (what I hope) is the truth. I commend you for choosing to come into terms with yourself. Good luck. I second citygirlsmom's advice.</p>

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<p>^ Haha, classic Gian with his hyper-analytical mindset.</p>

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<p>Lol. The story I posted on another forum, which the kick-butt stats, I copied from another person. But this one is true.</p>

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<p>I agree with whoever said "Fat people" can be fun. I'm no skater boy and my girlfriend isn't small either, though neither of us are "fat", and I think we're two of the funnest people in the world!</p>

<p>But really, do work on your self esteem. There really are people out there who will like you for who you are!</p>