<p>I met this girl one day in September and I enjoyed having dinner with her that night. Since I'm a pretty shy guy, I just asked her for her email address, and not her phone number. I contacted her via email and we discussed a myriad of topics via this form of communication for the next couple weeks. It wasn't until October I asked her to another dinner, but she said she was busy studying. I don't blame her, I do a lot of the same. I then asked her in November if she wanted to meet my parents but she also said no. Now keep in mind, all of this was over email and I still don't have her phone number. She also said in that email that she is busy doing something for her church and that she has no time to hang out for the rest of the year. Well, here I am in late January and nothings happened since. However, I happened to see her for the first time in person (since September)in the dining halls today. I said hi and asked her if she wanted to eat with me, but she was having take-out, so that wasn't possible. At times during the brief conversation, she also seemed to try to ignore/run away from me or something. This worries me even though I know she is quite shy and conservative. She also has not taken the initiative to send me any email and she didn't even wish me a happy birthday in December. Should I give this up? What am I doing wrong? I've carefully checked everything I've said online. I don't want to seem desperate. One more disclaimer: Our residence halls and no one near each other's and are class times are incompatible, so I would have to set something up. I just hope she doesn't like me just because I am atheist and she is very Christian.</p>
<p>DUDE...ok so u had dinner with a girl ocne and talked to her online a couple fo times and asked her to meet your parents o.O .,,, no offense but thats a little weird. and...yeah it could be the christian ..atheuist., thing but dude if she really liekd you it wouldn't matter</p>
<p>Sorry, but it sounds as though she's just not that into you. It doesn't mean that you have done anything wrong. If the feelings aren't there, they aren't there. Move on to someone else.</p>
<p>it sounds like she's trying to avoid you...
if it seemed obvious she kept trying to leave when you were talking you should probably forget about her.
it could be the atheist/christian thing. as an atheist I usually try not to discuss religion much.</p>
<p>I agree with the rest here.
Several things stood out to me.
For one, talking via email for a long time is not likely to develop your relationship very much. Also, the fact that she kept making excuses about not being able to meet up AND the fact that she said she couldn't meet up the rest of the year (back in Oct/Nov) is almost a dead giveaway she had no interest--she was probably just trying to avoid any more awkwardness without hurting you/feeling guilty.
Furthermore, the fact that you noticed she seemed to want to get away from you recently only further shows she is trying to avoid an awkward situation.</p>
<p>Finally, my guess would be that there are several issues going on here. First off, the fact that you are atheist and she is "very Christian" is going to make any kind of romantic relationship difficult to impossible by the very nature of her beliefs (you shall not be unequally yoked). That realization may have made her want to avoid any feelings for you. Consequently, she probably did not mind talking over email and getting to know you (email is pretty safe; asking for her phone number early on might have triggered the caution sign earlier and saved you some of the effort and distress!); however, once you started asking for another date(?) or (much weirder) to introduce her to your parents--you probably freaked her out a bit!</p>
<p>My 3 little words of advice for you? "Get Over Her!" -- Try a different girl and good luck! Confidence speaks louder than anything else!</p>
<p>Yeah...she's just not into you for whatever reason. </p>
<p>Forget about her and move on...and in the future, don't ask a girl to meet your parents after only having one dinner and random internet conversation. Get to know the next one well <em>in person</em> before inviting her to meet them.</p>
<p>Next time you see her, ask her where's she's been, why she hasn't e-mailed you lately. Keep it light, don't give the impression that your whole life's happiness is hinged on her contact with you, it'll make you look pathetic. Tell her you are sorry if you did something to make her feel uncomfortable and then ask her if she would like to be just friends. No expectations, no pressure, just friends. </p>
<p>If it isn't the religious difference, or you randomly asking her to meet your parents, it may be that she has a boyfriend and doesn't want to hurt you. Or maybe she had a horrible time at dinner and she doesn't know how to tell you that she doesn't want to hang anymore. I'm not trying to offend you because you seem like a nice enough guy, but it happens. Maybe she feels her silence will get that message across to you.</p>
<p>Well... I'd let it go. I think instead of emailing girls you should hang out with them in person, considering you go to the same school it shouldn't be hard. Also I wouldn't recommend asking them to meet your parents at least until they're actually your girlfriend. I'm a girl and I'd find that creepy. </p>
<p>It sounds like this girl isn't interested. I think the extremely different religious views would also be a problem if they're not already.</p>
<p>That's the problem, everything was online. That is not exactly the healthiest way to start a relationship. You talked to her a month online, did you physically see her in that month before you asked her to eat? It probably was a little bit odd in her mind to ask her to meet your parents. Cut your losses and use this as a learning experience.</p>
<p>I think it's pretty obvious she's not into you, so don't be the guy that just can't take a hint. The biggest indicator to me was that she said she couldn't hang out for the rest of the year...um...hello?</p>
<p>There are a couple things that could be at work. 1.) The whole athiest/Christian thing 2.) She doesn't like your personality 3.) You weirded her out by asking her if she wanted to meet your parents (uh?)</p>
<p>It's probably a combination of all three. Move on. You'll find the one for you ;).</p>
<p>My friend, what's with this shyness? Why is it so hard to go and talk to a girl like to a normal human being? She's not going to bite, you know. The thing with the e-mail was infantile, chicks like men, not shy boys, so you should've asked for her phone number. The best thing you should do is find another girl, because even if you find a way to be with this one it would still be very awkward to remember your silly start of the relationship. If you can't deal with American girls, come to Romania-you'll need an eternity to make a girl like you with that kind of attitude.</p>