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Regardless if you can or can't "see" how race can be a factor, it clearly is. Look at society...while race is not the main factor for most people, it is a factor.
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<p>i think he means society perception of "race", the color of your skin. It would be beside the point to start arguing the validity in the term "race" when most people do not know that race does not exist</p>
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<p>It could be the result of the "pure exposure effect" (or "pure disclosure effect"?) i learned in AP psychology last year. Basically it says that you tend to like something you see more often than others. This explains why most people are attracted more to their own race, and also why white people seem to be at an advantage over others (more whites on TV and ads).</p>
<p>(most of my asian friends prefer asians over others -> they grow up in their own countries, see more people of their own kind)</p>
<p>Hmmmm then why don't redheads become particularly attracted, form bonds with each other, and develop their own clique? Why don't blondes and brunettes do the same?</p>
<p>I think a lot of "white people" look very different, but they are still considered "caucasian," while other "races" are divided merely by the pigment in their skin and not their nose shape, height, hair color, or other trivial features. What's stranger is that caucasians still have very different cultures, not necessarily based on skin or other body features.</p>
<p>Sorry if I sound like a ragin' asian. I actually don't care much about "race", that is why I have to expose why the concept is so stupid.</p>
<p>This is something new to me. Can someone explain to me briefly why "race" does not exist?</p>
<p>waitingforjuly21, yes, I was talking about society's perception of race. lollybo, I was not confusing culture with "race" (skin color), I did mean skin color...I think it is a factor.</p>
<p>I was not referring to any comments by you, I was talking to goodusername.</p>
<p>The concept of race does not exist because, genetically, there is no marker that signifies a person's race. There are markers that signify skin color and other features, but that is not enough to identify a person's "race". </p>
<p>One of my friends told me a good way to look at it. Imagine that you are taking a hike westward China to Pakistan, then you go a little into the Middle East to Iran, then to Turkey, you end up in Romania and then you travel more westward through Europe till you get to France, then you go down to Spain, then to Morocco, down through West Africa from Algeria, to Mali, Niger, Nigeria, Cameroon, the Democratic Republic of Congo, Zambia, Botswana, and finally to South Africa. And when you finish you will find that after seeing the native peoples of all those countries that people only change gradually in appearance from East to West, from North to South. Only slight changes as you go on. </p>
<p>I hope that makes sense.</p>
<p>Oh and lollybo, i think I'm falling in love with you. I love ur comments. I've honestly never met an Asian with views like urs. Oh and keep hope alive because Black girls love it when their kids can turn out Blasian. Blaisn kids are so cute</p>
<p>Haha I appreciate the sentiments waitingforjuly</p>
<p>I usually don't enjoy getting into discussions like these because people tend to get so riled up in them (fortunately, no flaming has happened yet). I understand people have different views, that's why I need to try harder to convert their views to my own.</p>
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I was not referring to any comments by you, I was talking to goodusername.
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Sorry about that...I misunderstood your post.</p>
<p>Thanks for answering my question.</p>
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<p>You are racist. You discriminate people into "dateable" and "non dateable" based on their skin colour. That makes you racist.</p>
<p>[I didn't read the whole thread.]</p>
<p>Ok if he said I wouldn't date black girls because I do not find them attractive thats not racist. </p>
<p>Now for him to say I wouldn't date outside of my race. That to me seems like its it has nothing to do with attraction it has more to do with values and he thinks it is wrong. So yes I would agree that is racist.</p>
<p>Kenshi, to stereotype a whole race as unattractive isn't racist? Yar...okay.</p>
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I just wouldn't date anyone other than my own race. I'm not racist, but that's just the way I am.
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<p>I agree. And there's nothing racist with that. I may find girls of other races attractive but I wouldn't necessarily date them.</p>
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<p>woo hoo :D</p>
<p>Yeah I agree with mightynick. Isn't that just one's preference ANYWAY? why should anybody else interfere long as they don't do any harm to anybody else?</p>
<p>I dunno, I'm asian and I'm pretty much only attracted to asian and certain white guys, but I wouldn't consider myself racist o_O (although everybody's a little racist, you cant help it) I thought certain black guys were good looking but I wasn't attracted to them.. and I can't FORCE myself to be attracted to people, lol</p>
<p>alot of mixed kids turn out to be gorgeous though haha</p>
<p>edit- o btw to the original question - I think its because of alot of the attitudes certain black girls have. Some girls I've seen (i'm very broadly stereotyping here forgive me) were VERY loud and disrespectful to other people. (there was even one girl who stuck gum on my hair so.. =_=) alot of black girls in my neighborhood were like that, unfortunately.</p>
<p>However, my friend who's also black ALWAYS somehow ended up going out with white guys. She also married one last year. I think it just have something to do with how each individuals carry themselves. My friend's black but she's very articulate and isn't loud at all XP</p>
<p>No it is not racist because nobody can help what there preference is it just is.</p>
<p>But those who do date a certain race intentionally I do find racist. Like blacks who date outside their race because they want their kid to have "good hair" or Asians who date whites because they want to be more Americanized.</p>
<p>TheOneCurlyFry and spunkypundit, go around and labeling those who have different views/preferences than you "racist" or "sexist" is just as ignorant as racists and sexists. it defeats the purpose of meaningful debate. see godwin's law</p>
<p>I don't think that they're just arbitrarily labeling them as racist, I think it's more of a "if it quacks like a duck..."</p>
<p>I agree if you don't find certain features attractive, that's not racist. However, many people of the same race have vastly different features (because race is a social construct). While it's slightly closed-minded, I wouldn't consider that racist.</p>
<p>What I <em>would</em> consider racist is agreeing that people of a certain race can be attractive, FINDING them attractive, then choosing not to date them because of their race. That's discrimination based on race, ie, racism. And if that works for you, fine, but don't call yourself completely tolerant. Just accept that you're a little bit racist and move on.</p>
<p>yea i agree with luckcharmed's explanation. I also think that a lot of kids assume black girls are loud and rude when they aren't because, like someone earlier said, you can find that in any race.</p>
<p>Earlier I was broad in a statement saying that most white girls are submissive, that is also a generalization brought on by the media. When a black girl does stand up for herself, or is more open and outspoken, do not mistake that for being loud and obnoxious. And there is nothing wrong with confidence. Self-esteem is good for you.</p>
<p>I do not think we need to forced to play down our personalities just to please people enough so they'd like us.</p>
<p>And yes everyone is a little bit racist, that's the way we were brought up. Blame it on your parents lol</p>
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<p>According to the Oxford English Dictionary, racism is a belief or ideology that all members of each race possess characteristics or abilities specific to that race, especially to distinguish it as being either superior or inferior to another race or races.</p>
<p>I'm sorry if I sounded rude, I understood it as "I will not date anyone outside of my race because they're from another race", but he might mean "I have not been attracted to anyone outside of my own race, and I don't think I will be." If he meant the former, he is racist. He's discriminating against someone just because their skin is a different colour. If it's the latter, it's just the way he is and I don't think he's racist.</p>
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<p>I don't think he was stereotyping a race, he was just saying he has never found a person of a particular race attractive. Like, for example, I don't find those bodybuilder muscle type guys attractive, I'm not against bodybuilder muscle type guys as a generalisation, I personally am not attracted to them.</p>
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<p>Sorry, I was a bit rude, I guess.</p>
<p>"You think black girls get it bad! At least you can find a nice black male.</p>
<p>As an asian male, we are totally screwed. There are a lot of asian female/white male couples, but almost no asian male/white female couples, or asian male/asian female for that matter."</p>
<p>^Lollybo I'm black and i have a HUGE fetish for asian men! Yeah, that's right I said it I love asian men! Supposedly, a lot of people are shocked and say some weird things but I don't care. Black girls are stereotyped in a negative way, but then again I've met a lot of ghetto rude ones too. It sucks because if a black girl isn't "ghetto" she's trying to act white. Besides that I usually attract a lot of black men, but there was this one instance when i walked around with a white guy and I recieved all these nasty looks from black men :( . Which is ironic because if I was by myself I probably recieve that attention. Well, conclusion I like asian guys so don't worry and everyone has their own preferences!</p>