I have a son at a state university/honors college. He is as motivated and high achieving as anyone I have ever known.
He was valedictorian of his high school class of about 350 students (graduated in 2016), a national merit finalist, state AP scholar, high standardized test scores, 2 sport varsity athlete but real volunteer activities or leadership roles. He is shy and does not draw attention to himself. His father, paternal grandfather, and paternal uncle all went to Dartmouth. His father and I both went to Tufts Medical School. We wanted him at a small school because he is quiet, so he applied to 7 private schools. We were shocked when he was rejected by 3 schools and waitlisted by the other 4 schools including Dartmouth and Tufts. I don’t think his dad or his side of the family will ever get over Dartmouth’s decision. My son’s numbers were way higher than the average student at Tufts and I honestly did not see Tufts as an elite. Tufts still asks me for donations, so I e-mailed President Monaco to tell him why I would never donate to Tufts. He actually replied that Tufts wants students who contribute something to the college community, not those who would excel there.
In April, my son applied to our state university and was accepted with a full tuition scholarship. He decided to look at the NMF schools and he chose ASU-Barrett Honors College. Because of the NMF status, he has a full tuition scholarship. Out of state tuition for ASU is $26,000, so that is what we don’t pay. We did not see him at Tempe with 50,000 students, so he applied to the Polytechnic Campus in Mesa. He stays in the honors wing of the dorm so there is not a lot of partying. The dorm is very nice and modern. It is only a few years old. He has had great support from the university. When he initially had some anxiety about being thousands of miles from home, they all helped him. The university really wanted to keep their NMF. He is doing great in school now. He got two A+s this first semester and will take 18 credits next semester including taking a couple of classes at Tempe. He is planning a double major and because they will credit most of his AP exams, he can graduate in 3 years. The scholarship gives him 8 semesters, so he can get a masters his 4th year if he wants to stay there. I am hoping it all works out well, but only time will tell.
The irony of the situation is that we had money saved up for the elite private school, $70,000 a year for 4 years. We are paying about $14,000 a year for room and board and $1000 a year for the honors college fees at ASU. Over 4 years, we will have saved $220,000. If you consider that he can get a bachelor’s in 3 years when it would have been 4 years elsewhere, we are saving $235,000 for his bachelor’s degree. I remember paying back my med school loans and I wound up paying back 3 times what I borrowed because of the interest. I can’t imagine that a bachelor’s degree from any institution is worth $700,000 more than a bachelor’s degree from ASU. The scary thing is that had my son gotten into Tufts or any of the other private schools he initially applied to, he would have gone and we would have gladly paid out a large amount of our hard earned money. He would not have applied to ASU and we would never have known about the public school/honors college option.
I can’t say that any of us has truly gotten over what happened in the admissions process. It has really made me question the value of an elite private college education. If they are looking to put together an interesting, diverse group of people and not necessarily the brightest minds, how will that improve the quality of education? They don’t have a monopoly on the best professors either. How is that worth the huge price tag that they are charging? We have a year off and my younger son applies next year. He will definitely be applying exclusively to public schools.