And do you have any tips to share from your college search?
I’m hoping someone provides some tips for you. We are somewhat winging it, realizing that he may not be able to succeed, but trying to give him all the supports we can. S had 26 ACT/just around 3.5 (or just under?) gpa and we did not anticipate much in the way of scholarship and went with 2 public colleges where he could pay in-state or reciprocity tuition. One was only an hour away, but the other that was 3 hours away had a seemed to have a stronger program in his major based on our (son/dad/mom) opinions. After being accepted by both, “we” asked via email about housing/disability/health services. Last year, son and I set up an email account that we share for all college related information. That has been helpful since I act as his secretary and can see all incoming/outgoing emails and remind him if needed. I think I may have seen a tip like that here on CC. Housing was a big issue for us since s is on spectrum and has ulcerative colitis-2 invisible disabilities. He qualified for a single room with bath and if that is not available, a single room (or double without roommate assigned). For my s, not having a roommate was a big issue. He needs a place to be alone when needed. For some on the spectrum, a roommate could be a positive thing. We have a disability meeting with the school he chose the day before his one day orientation this summer to discuss classroom accommodations. For my s, it will be a big transition. He left his public hs freshman year and has been an online student for the past 3 1/2 years. Time management is a problem for s, so I felt that narrowing the search to 2 schools, visiting and deciding between those was a better choice than multiple campus visits/applications, etc. It was helpful that my son felt strongly about his major choice and I wanted to be within a reasonable driving distance so I could get to him if bumps along the way. The one hour away college would have been more convenient for family day trips to visit or him coming home more often, but the one he chose feels like a better fit. We really won’t know until he tries it out this fall. Good luck in your search 
Are you planning to find an executive function coach for him at school? Will you be coaching him from home?
@Cardinal Fang-if asking me, our plan is to support from home when needed and encourage use of tutors/disability services/RA. I do not work outside the home and have more availability than some parents might. He has an uncle/aunt about an hour away from his school. I have seen some improvement on executive functioning throughout his hs career (however diagnosed with uc last year did not help this school year). I want to have a discussion with disability services about reduced course load…maybe one less class than average freshman, knowing that it may take longer than 4 years to graduate or have to do summer classes. He is also hoping to take an online class or two which having been an online student throughout most of hs, would help in the transition to college imo.
my ASD S (sat 1470 3.7ish W GPA out of 4) is going to attend RIT. We are getting him a mentor for his EF issues through their SSP. Even though it was possible that my S could have gotten admitted to what we will call higher ranking schools, and has a slim chance at our flagship public , we felt it was more important for him to go where he will succeed. I think the coaching is going to make the difference. I also feel that socially he will be fine.
I would search…there are some threads of people in the same situation
Thank you everyone.
We have a little while to go before college. After touring and researching schools for my neuro typical older child it dawned on me that a school with open curriculum might be a good option for my Aspie. That hyper focus is an excellent trait and HS has been a struggle in required courses where there is little interest. Something to consider.
We focused on schools that had the support we thought he needed and the environment that would suit him best and the academics he wanted/needed.
Our plan is a paid academic coach program through his college (RIT) + continued therapy with his current therapist via their online platform. We will also file for disability accommodations in a few areas.
And, to be honest, we will buy tuition insurance. I expect him to be successful but you never know.
The fallback plan is his second choice school with more of the at home supports.