<p>I'm going to be entering college and have been dating my boyfriend who will be a senior in high school this fall for almost 2 years. I know that it will be hard to keep our relationship strong because we will be 4 hours apart. I was wondering if anyone else is going though something similar and how they kept close. Or if you think it will not work. Let me know what you think. Thanks!</p>
<p>I was in a similar situation freshman year -- I was in college 12 hours away (only 2 by plane :)) from my boyfriend, who was a high school senior.</p>
<p>It was a very tough time -- he was very jealous of all my new friends, particularly the guys who lived in my suite. He also wanted to talk on the phone for two hours or so per night, which was tough for me (I go to MIT... freshman year was rough academically). We fought. A lot.</p>
<p>He broke up with me at the end of Christmas break... he had decided he wanted to be the big bad senior boy and hit on all the high school freshmen.</p>
<p>Basically -- people do the LDR thing. But it's hard. And both people in the relationship have to be committed to making it work, and there has to be a significant amount of effort put in by both parties.</p>
<p>try it out…but if your in College and he’s in High School…best of luck w/that</p>
<p>i dont recomend continuing the relationship.. being tied to someone in a different place can really detract from your college experience... ive seen this happen too many times</p>
<p>psh.....i was 2 hours away from my g/f who was in highschool my freshman year..........we kept in touch, I saw her as much as i possibly could, she always made sure that I put my academics first...i.e. if i was home and had a substantial amount of work she refused to see me unless i finished it....she never got jelous (got nervous once but she was under alot of stress at the time)....we stayed close though....we were happier to see eachother when we did.....we kept strong....now we're both going to the same school, and we're better than ever....</p>
<p>although...i must admit...it might have been a little bit different if it was her at college and me in highschool.....the truth is, guys have more of an issue with jelousy......basically.....being male, they know how guys are....it's not that they don't trust the girl, they don't trust the college guys who tend to hit on freshman girls....but i think we still would've been alright.....</p>
<p>and what's up with your ex and that whole "big senior complex"...it's stupid....who cares about how many freshmen girls will give you their virginity...it's hard to find a good girl nowadays...if you find one might as well try and keep her.....cuz who knows how much you'll regret it in the end....</p>
<p>" and what's up with your ex and that whole "big senior complex"...it's stupid....who cares about how many freshmen girls will give you their virginity...it's hard to find a good girl nowadays...if you find one might as well try and keep her.....cuz who knows how much you'll regret it in the end.... "</p>
<p>and this comes from a guy, bravo =)</p>
<p>Oh, he regrets it now, you betcha. I'm dating the guy I'm going to marry, and he's still completely single. Ahhh... life is good.</p>
<p>I agree with you that it might be different depending on whether the guy or girl is in college. I dated a guy two years older than me when I was a sophomore-senior, and we were fine with him in college for almost two full years. (We broke up for unrelated reasons.)</p>
<p>It's good to see some people in the same situation as me. I'm going through the same thing right now, except I'm commuting to a school that's about an hour away, so we'll be living in the same town.</p>
<p>I don't really have any advice to give, since I'm in the same boat, but if you're committed (and it seems like you are, since you two have been dating for 2 years), and willing to put in the work, I think it'll be fine. Just be aware from the onset that there are sacrifices you're both going to make, and keep the lines of communication open.</p>
<p>A pretty useless post, but I hate lurking. Best of luck to you both!</p>
<p>My boyfriend will be a senior in high school this year, and I will be a freshman in college eleven hours away and I'm going to miss him like hell. He's a determined guy though, I have a lot of faith in it. It's going to be so hard though. So I feel your pain, in every way, it sucks. We're going to try to make it work though and I will be home in five-six weeks, and then again five later. It's not going to be easy in any means but I think it's worth a shot. He's not just my boyfriend he's my best friend.</p>
<p>My bf and I have been together for a year even though we were 3,000 miles apart. We will continue to date in college, but will be MUCH closer now (1.5hrs by train) so it's actually an improvement.</p>