<p>Hello,</p>
<p>For those already in college, do you still keep in touch with your high school friends? Has your relationships with them gotten better/worse? I was just wondering because I was thinking about it the other day and how my parents haven't seen their hs friends in like 20 years or w/e.</p>
<p>Some people do but others don't. I really don't have much to do with any of my high school friends. I have a few closer ones that went to different schools that I occasionally catch up with and might go do something with on breaks, but its nothing like it used to be. Of my friends that go to the same college as me, even though one lives right around the corner from me, we don't really talk but I expected that would happen after we got to college. It just depends on how close you are to them and how much effort you are willing to use.</p>
<p>I've definitely figured out who my true friends are now because they're the ones that I make an effort to keep in touch with at college and at home for break. </p>
<p>It's actually really hard to keep in touch because everyone is so busy with their new lives at college with new friends and experiences, but my friends and I IM, text, and even write letters everyday to each other. Video chatting is nice too.</p>
<p>I don't, but one of my neighbors in my dorm constantly does; she doesn't really hang out with her fellow dormmates or anyone she's met in college because she's always out with her high school friends (and when she's with us, she's texting them). I don't think there's much wrong with that though. For the most part, most people I know keep in touch with their high school friends (some more than others), but these are primarily freshman; it may be different as the years go on.</p>
<p>As for me, I don't because I recently discovered most of my "friends" were giant jerks. =] Granted, I only had two really close high school friends to begin with, but I wasn't planing on never speaking to them again.</p>
<p>It's weird. Things change, but I couldn't imagine just losing my old friends.</p>
<p>My best friend and I are still best friends. Some of my closer friends when I am home from break are people I wasn't too much of friends with in high school...although that is probably just a result of not knowing them until my senior year.</p>
<p>Some of my close friends we are still on great terms with each other, but don't hang out a ton because of differences in living, some having to stay on campus for sports during breaks, visiting families elswehere in the country during breaks, etc.</p>
<p>Some people I was close with and semi-close with in high school I never see any more.</p>
<p>Some people I wasn't friends with in high school or didn't even know are my friends now.</p>
<p>But I think it depends a lot on who your friends were in high school. My friends in high school were people I wanted to be friends with, and actually liked as a person. I think people in high school who make friends based on the social structure (such as those "popular people" who just make friends with people who they have someone to party with, or nerds being friends with nerds because those are the only people nice enough to be friends with them) are the people who lose all their high school friends.</p>
<p>I've always hated flakey people. If a person is a flake, I eliminate them from my life, so it's not too surprising to me that I've maintained most of my high school friendships, and all of the important ones.</p>
<p>I hang out with like 2 friends from high school. Mostly just my best friend from HS and her cousin and some of the people they know. My friend's cousin goes to my college and my friend lives in my college town. I occasionally see some of my other hs friends when I go home but most of them are like, married and/or have kids now so... we don't exactly have alot in common... I don't actually even talk to my best friend THAT much anymore because she stays stuck under her boyfriend's butt all the time now and is at home all the time too.</p>
<p>Actually, yes. I'm a friendly person and I stayed in touch with many of them. But, the great part about not seeing people a lot is that when you see them, it's more meaningful and you have way more to talk about. I'm close to my close friends from hs and stayed on talking terms with others who I was moderately close to. Otherwise, I'll be friendly and mini catch-up with someone if I just happen to see them.</p>
<p>It's a good test of friendship for the ages if you're not constantly around someone--and you're still able to be friends.</p>
<p>I'm still close with two of my best friends from high school--we don't talk as often as we did at the beginning of college, since we're all busy with jobs, grad school, and serious relationships, but we catch up on the phone every month or so and hang out when we can visit or when we're at our parents' houses.</p>
<p>Freshman and sophomore years, we still talked every week or two and hung out constantly over breaks. Then phone call frequency decreased because we got busier, went abroad, had a new girlfriend/boyfriend, etc. Then we stopped coming home for most of the summer and winter breaks (jobs, research, year round leases...), so that meant seeing one another a lot less.</p>
<p>Still, we make the time when we can and definitely care about one another as much as we ever did, even though we're not as involved in each other's every-day lives.</p>
<p>I'm a sophomore and at the point where I only really hang out with 5 of my old high school friends reguarly on breaks. There are others who I'll see now and then, but it wouldn't surprise me if I see them rarely see them again. It pretty much boils down to your closest friends. Because breaks are so short and you start doing more and more, you end up not putting in any effort to spend time with those who aren't your closest friends. My dad still keeps in touch with some of his high school friends even though they don't even live in the same country. If you make an effort, you can stay intouch with everyone you knew in high school. The thing is, you only make an effort for the people you liked most.</p>
<p>Outside of one person, no. We were the only two to go to out-of-state schools. She went to NY and I went to Boston. </p>
<p>The funny thing is that when I would come back home, my high school friends seemed jealous that I made the leap forward while they stuck around my town. A lot of them went to the local state schools and for the most part, didn't finish, got married and/or has kids. Now, every time I come home, it's like I'm the bad person because I go after the things I want.</p>
<p>After 3 years of college I barely see any of my close friends from high school. I still talk to them but when I go home I hang out with a different crowd now.</p>
<p>We meet once a year, write emails at special occasions, call each other at birthdays, but that's that.
But it's not really hard - it's strange, but you just move on. People at your new college are different and change you a lot.</p>
<p>Same as above ^</p>
<p>People change, personally my college friends a similar world persective as I do and are closer to me. I mean, it's just time and proximity.</p>
<p>Might be different for people who go to college in-state - but for me, most h.s. relationships tended to fade with time. As a college freshman or sophomore, things were still in transition and I thought things might last maybe - but yeah, you learn who you really cared about I guess.</p>
<p>It really varies from person to person, but I consider myself friendly and I have kept in touch with probably 5-7 HS friends. Everyone seems to reunite at local bars and parties anyway. Before I went to college, I was frightened I would have no one else to hang out with when I got back home, but it's nice to know that true friends don't change much, and remember that everyone is in the same boat as you. You probably won't talk much to acquaintances anymore, but you will probably talk to your true and close friends a decent amount still. Just don't lose the contact and keep talking asking them how life is, then meet up when you both get home. Don't worry, you make so many new friends at college anyway, and they become like your family since they live with you too.</p>
<p>I've been out of high school 26 years. My two closest friends are from high school. One went to college with me also, so we have that bond. We had years where we didn't talk as much. But we got closer over the years I think due to the longevity of the relationship and the common history. I am friendly with others from high school and college but not close friends.</p>
<p>I graduated high school in 2002. I had a large group of female friends in HS, there were about 12 of us. Other than being friends with them on Facebook, I don't really talk with the majority of them anymore. Only one of them I talk with on the phone every week. There are two others that I might hear from during breaks. </p>
<p>I'm not really sad about it. I made other friends during college, and also now in grad school.</p>
<p>I didn't have any friends in HS, and I hope to never any ANY of those people who were my HS classmates.</p>
<p>^^ Ditto... no true friends at least (I went to 4 high schools).</p>
<p>Still a freshman, but so far it's been working out well with HS friends. I think your true friends are the ones who you don't have to maintain constant contact with, but when you see each other you're comfortable with just talking with them like you always did.</p>
<p>I'm still a freshman, but I think I have kept in touch very well with my friends. I went to a very small high school and I'm across the country and I touch base with most of my class about once a month. I talk to my close friends a few times a week.</p>
<p>Its so easy to stay in touch with Skype and IMing and Facebook. If you try at all, you can do it. In a way, it gets better because you aren't exposed to the little things that used to get on your nerves a lot when you saw them everyday.</p>
<p>It hasn't been very long, but I definitely see myself keeping in touch with a lot of my high school friends for a very long time.</p>