<p>Soooooooo I am very frustrated with boys right now.
Here's the issue:</p>
<p>I met boy A about 3 months ago. The first night we hung out, we hooked up (made out) and we didn't talk that much. I see him at a party a week later and he tries to kiss me on the lips to say hello but I turn my cheek. We didn't talk the rest of the night. I then see him at another party about a month ago and he kisses me on the lips to say hello, but we don't talk the rest of the night again. Then, I saw him 2 days ago at a friends house and he kissed me hello and goodbye. The following night we all decide to go to a movie and I pick him up at his house (just the 2 of us) and we meet everyone at the movies. We talked a bit on the way there, and then a good amount on the way back. We then hooked up in my car after the movie. He got my number and said he would call. </p>
<p>So.......I really think he is a cool guy, and I don't want to be a hook up buddy. How can I befriend him....possibly boyfriend...while still hooking up with him, but not seeming slutty?</p>
<p>Boys are so confusing and I really don't like them right now.</p>
<p>lol sounds like he likes to hook up. Boyfriend material? Eh, have you asked him how many other girls he kisses randomly at parties? The number may be shocking :)</p>
<p>Seem slutty to whom? The guy or somebody else? Because, sorry, but if you two made out the first night you met without talking much, the guy might've already made his own conclusions.</p>
<p>I don't think there is a problem. Go out with him and "hook up" a few times. What is the big deal? If you don't want to be "slutty" then just try not to "hook up" too much.</p>
<p>Talk to him about it. Next time you two are together alone, tell him outright that you don't want to be a random hook up. Tell him that you do really like him and enjoy spending time with him. Of course, when you make a declaration like that, you might want to consider not hooking up that night so he takes what you said seriously.</p>
<p>Also, I don't know how guys read these things, but maybe it came off before that you thought it was a random hook up-- you guys make out, then you barely acknowledged him the next time you saw each other.</p>
<p>I think that talking about it is a bad idea, I think that should be more subtle about it...don't just blurt it all out.</p>
<p>here's an idea, if he really wants to make out and you don't, just tell him that you had onions and that feel like vomiting...that will get him to stop.</p>
<p>haha. well the problem isn't that i don't like kissing him...becuase i DEFINTELY do.</p>
<p>but i think he is a really cool guy and he is best friends with my best friend's boyfriend so i see him a lot. i just want us to be friends and possibly something more and i really don't want him to think that i am easy. so how do i fix his perception of me. </p>
<p>oh and the first time we hooked up was definitely a random hookup type of thing where no numbers were exchanged or anything. but this last time was definitely a date.</p>
<p>Oh and lets say that we go out again. We will obviously make out but what is the fatherest I should go before he starts to think that I am slutty.</p>
<p>I think you're the one being confusing. All you're doing is hooking up and talking little and all of a sudden you feel like continuing this hooking up will make you slutty, even though he didn't do anything to be confusing, because he just seems to like making out. </p>
<p>I suggest not immediately making it a snogfest in the first few minutes every time you meet. That way, there can be some time to actually talk and have it be a date instead of hooking up.</p>
<p>yeah, if you want to seem less slutty, do more of the cheek-turning thing. i mean that figuratively. since you're "dating" you're obviously going to be kissing, but i'd draw the line there or at a point not too far from there. if you set a limit then that's being less slutty.</p>
<p>it's not so much that we kiss too much in public because we didnt kiss during the movie, but more like we kiss A LOT afterwards when we are alone like in the car or something.</p>