<p>Hi, this is my first post.
My family lives in a Southeast Asian country. My D is torn between Wesleyan and Virginia. We wanted to pay the deposit for both to buy us some time. But Wesleyan has a clause in its admission package that "it reserves the right to withdraw if you hold down another school". Now, we're confused. We're planning to travel in June, then decide after visiting the schools. Wes put down a list of the schools that we applied and the decisions that they gave. Would the school know if we didn't tell? I surely don't want my D to be "unaccepted". Please help.</p>
<p>Why would you be asking how to help your daughter violate the agreement? If you really need some additional time to decide, ask them for it.</p>
<p>You wouldn’t want to take the chance that they find out. It is definitely against the rules at Wesleyan. You could call both schools and ask permission to delay the decision, since you live far away and have plans to visit both in the near term. Not sure what they will say… but I know my niece (who lives abroad) was able to get a delay in making her acceptance decision last year between a similar LAC and a highly ranked public university (although for different reasons). Her reason for delay was a conditional acceptance at Oxford, and they had not returned a decision on her final acceptance yet. So I don’t know what they would say in your situation, but I personally would not risk it.</p>
<p>I guarantee you, absolutely, that the difference between the two colleges, will the temperature. All else will be so similar as to be indistinguishable. </p>
<p>If you find this to be hard. Wait until you visit and you will remember my words. Where you are from is not material to your decision.</p>
<p>Hopefully you have already compared the obvious points. ???</p>
<p>You cannot have a place held at both schools. There is no reason to be confused. It’s a simple rule. By May 1, you must chose ONE school and put down a deposit. Should you have your daughter put down two deposits, BOTH schools can then reject her. They may know about your double deposit deception even if you don’t tell them.</p>
<p>How did Wesleyan know this?
I’m in agreement with Erin’s Dad: don’t violate a rule and then try to get away with it. Tell them upfront and ask for the delay. Keep in mind that they have “the list”; that’s very telling. Be sure you also ask the other college, even if they don’t have a stated rule.</p>
<p>Don’t take the risk! I know someone who is holding down MULTIPLE deposits at some schools, also from South-east Asia. This person is holding down deposits at multiple UCs! (Don’t know how that is possible). I think you should decide asap. Btw does this “only one deposit” rule work for universities in different countries? Like, should I withdraw my deposit at my uni in my home country before depositing in the US on May 1?</p>
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<p>…Unless you get a waiver from the school or schools. If they won’t give you one, then you need to make a decision by May 1 and deposit for that school. </p>
<p>I’ve known at least one example of a kid who made a decision to attend School A and reject School B. He then changed his mind and called School B to see if they would still take him. They did. He’s a happy freshman at School B.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t depend on being able to change your mind after the fact, but you never know.</p>
<p>But under no circumstances should you double deposit.</p>
<p>This is totally unfair to the waitlist kids who’s been waiting for many weeks and the system will get confused about the real enrollment rate.</p>
<p>I agree, and holding down multiple schools is even worse! Unfortunately I’ve seen it happen more than once.</p>
<p>Pick the University of Virginia. Everything will be cool. Little Tommy Jefferson would never do you wrong.</p>
<p>ester…you had to know that this decision was required by May 1. The schools don’t care when you made your travel plans. They expect ONE matriculation decision…before May 1.<br>
Don’t risk having your daughter’s admission revoked because you violated a clearly stated rule. Make a choice. As pointed out…both are great schools with the biggest difference being the weather.</p>
<p>I’m going to assume that ‘Virginia’ is UVa. For a little perspective on how they feel about this I’ll refer you to a popular blog written by a Dean of admissions at UVa, Dean J. She also posts in the UVa forum here on cc. </p>
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<p>[Notes</a> from Peabody: The UVA Application Process: The National Candidate’s Reply Date is upon us!](<a href=“http://uvaapplication.blogspot.com/2010/04/national-candidates-reply-date-is-upon.html]Notes”>Notes from Peabody: The UVA Application Process: The National Candidate's Reply Date is upon us!)</p>
<p>You can read the post in it’s entirety (although I included copied the entire quote here to avoid paraphrasing).</p>
<p>So, you now know where both schools stand on the issue. Another concern is what are you teaching your student? “It’s okay honey…those rules apply to everyone else except you.”. Many, many families would benefit from a greater length of time to decide. Many can never make the trip due to distance, finance, etc. </p>
<p>Certainly contact each school and ask for an bit more time. They may or may not grant it. Breaking the rules at both schools before she even gets there (and risking her spot at both) is not the right answer.</p>
<p>I don’t know why everyone is hating on the OP. I’ve seen double, triple, quadruple deposits made by kids at my school this year and last year. Seriously, call the school first, but if they don’t oblige I highly doubt that they will reject your daughter. Even if they do “un-accept” her I feel like you could then fight this. I understand that ethics come into play, but here’s the thing…parents will do anything for their child. My parents wouldn’t want me to be in this situation, but I have no doubt that they’d send in two deposits. So yes, try to abide by the rules, but hey other people break them (it’s just that these people aren’t posting on CC lol)…</p>
<p>I think it is a good idea to ask each school for more time to decide.</p>
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Sure you could fight it, but you would lose.</p>
<p>If Wesleyan explicity states that double deposits can result in withdrawl and despite the fact that doing so is not right, you really shouldn’t do this. Contact each school, explain the situation and see what happens. You are going to have to make a decision at some point, why not sooner? Also, don’t know about your high school but we have to report the accepted college. The hs needs this for graduation. Furthermore, the hs sends out the final transcript to the college and if you have two colleges, I can’t image your hs going along with this.</p>
<p>Collegeguru–I have to say, no, you don’t get that ethics come into play, if you think that – “I don’t feel like following them” is an acceptable response.</p>
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<p>Under what situation would a person need to hold 4 spots open? If you are still hammering out financial aid details, that’s one thing and I am sure that you can get an extension. But holding 4 spots down just because you can’t decide–Crazy!</p>
<p>This is an important decision and maybe you should consider flying over NOW for a quick visit - yes it’s expensive but it’s your child’s education. That’s what we did with my daughter when we lived in Asia.</p>