Homesick and should I transfer?

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<p>I used to think that this was my dream school, and I really enjoyed my first semester. I had friends and my roommate and I were quite similar and life was good. It's second semester, and things keep getting worse, and I don't know why. </p>

<p>The people I used to hang out with don't bother to check up on me or hang out with me, and I have a feeling my roommate talks badly of me, and I don't even know why. A lot of the activities that are available on campus are by interview only, and with all of the activities i've applied for, i've gotten through the first round of applicants, and then i'm cut. I'm in really hard classes right now, and it's hardly easy for me to get A's or even B+'s like i used to. I rushed, didn't get in, but then the sorority that i wanted to be in (where I thought my "friends" were) gave me a bid, which was nice. Unfortunately, the girls that I was good friends with before suddenly changed and were hardly kind to me anymore. I have no idea what i did! I was supposed to room with a girl in the house, but then she decided that she wanted to room with another girl instead, so I'm S.O.L. right now, and again, I don't know what to do. Our school has a huge frat scene, and I want to go out and have fun like i used to, but nobody ever invites me out, and generally I ask to go out, but others always say that they're going out already with some other people and imply that they don't want me there. I'm sick of imposing myself, so i just don't ask. I don't want to complain to anyone about it because I know that I would get sick of people complaining to me.</p>

<p>I'm far, far away from home, and all of this nonsense has made me extremely homesick. I was supposed to go on a spring break trip with my sorority, but I'm just so homesick I have to go home. Generally, I'm a very loving and optimistic person, and I'm just waiting for my luck to turn around, but it hasnt for months. </p>

<p>I do have friends, but they are hardly what i would consider close to me. All of this is making me feel very second-rate and i've been considering transferring. the only problem is that I was so excited to go to school here, and everyone was extremely excited for me. I'm afraid that if i transfer, my mother will be upset and people will think poorly of me.</p>

<p>what should I do? Thanks</p>

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<p>Take a breath. Take another one. Cry. Scream. Get it all out.</p>

<p>Ready? This is YOUR life. To that statement, you can choose new friends. Go to the local coffee shop(not the one at campus), go see a movie, something. Your roommate turned into a bee-otch which sucks. You can ask to switch, or try to avoid your dorm as much as possible.</p>

<p>Homesickness? That sucks too. Mama’s cooking and Dad’s encouragement is not here to comfort you right now. If talking on the phone with them makes it worse, communicate with them occasionally, but realize this is merging into adulthood. Don’t become a crazy bratty rebel, but exercise your independence. </p>

<p>Your in your 2nd semester, so this is very common. If you want, go in YouTube and type in: howcast homesick college. Choose the first one. Funny, but informative.</p>

<p>You’ll get through it soon. Just look up :)</p>

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<p>I feel for you as you are going through a tough time and feeling alone and unsure of yourself. Keep active, perhaps with intramural sports or working out, and don’t give up on activities, they should not all be so selective. Consider a counselor at your college, you need to be able to talk about everything. Also, if you are a person of faith, consider joining that faith- based group on your campus.</p>

<p>Things will improve, even if you decide to transfer, so be patient with and believe in yourself.</p>

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<p>I think this is common for freshmen though instead I would assume most of us ( also freshmen) become more comfortable at our current school by second semester. You seem to state that the longer your there the more distant you become. Are you in a small community? I would suggest to just branch out more, and if the place is large enough do not just try to connect to the campus but also the city. I would also assume the harder you try to connect with these students you speak of the more awful you feel, so just let it happen without your overwhelming personal effort. Though I am not saying do not make an effort, just do not put all blood, sweat and tears (that is actually the name of a show) into it. This also would likely lead to the best outcome.</p>