Homesick & depressed transfer student

I just transferred to a state school as a junior 2 hours from my house. I was so excited to be living in a house with my best friend and a couple other roommates. My excitement was short lived about 2 hours into moving in. I felt an overwhelming sense of homesickness. I spent the next couple days balling my eyes out and constantly calling my mom. I feel like I’m stuck there and I hate it. I kept asking my parents if I could just come home and transfer to a school that is in my home town but I don’t want to let anyone down or be the girl who can’t be away from home. Either way I have to stick it out for this quarter. Any suggestions or has anyone experienced something similar?

I’m not a transfer student, but rather a current sophomore also at a state school, also two hours from home. I had a fairly miserable freshman year. Something that helped a bit was trying to stay busy. Have you joined any clubs or organizations? Can you find a place to volunteer, or a gym to go to, or some sort of regular on-campus activity that would give you something with which to distract yourself? Study groups for class? Intramural sports? My school has over 800 clubs; I’m sure yours has something that would interest you.

I think you’re very lucky to be living with your best friend. Do they do anything cool you could tag along for?

A quarter isn’t too much time, so hopefully you can survive for now. However, if you can’t, there’s no shame in that. You’re not letting anyone down by making the choice that’s best for you.

Also, check out your university’s (probably free) counseling services if you start to feel like you can’t get out of this funk.

Good luck!!

Keep busy. Get a part time job, join clubs, exercise, join or form study groups, find study spots you feel comfortable with, volunteer on or near campus. Explore your new town – maybe try to venture off campus once a week to find out what is around. Get out of the house and stay busy – you will meet more people and find new friends that way.

Hey, I am in the same boat as you so you can definitely PM me and we can figure this out together! My best advice is that be appreciative of what you have and see how you feel after a year at the college you transferred to. If you still do not like it, you should talk with your parents about what you don’t like specifically. Don’t worry.