Honesty time, boys.

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^you might want to get off your high horse

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'Twas a joke. Please accept my apologies.</p>

<p>In all seriousness, I do consider looks, but those who are flirtatious with many others, or have serious ego problems, immediately get a resounding "no" from me. And no, I've never really been in a relationship. I've just been shy enough to not ask, and will probably remain that way for the foreseeable future.</p>

<p>That's the truthful answer. :)</p>

<p>And oh yeah, when I really start searching a girl to MARRY, personality and health come first well before looks.</p>

<p>Looks matter. There has to be some level of physical attraction, right? Personality is way more important though. For instance, there are plenty of hot girls at my school who I'd probably never consider going with because they're either too dumb (by this I usually mean materialistic and superficial), do drugs (excessively), sluts, or we have views that are too differing/contradictory. </p>

<p>In the end, it really depends on the person and you can't put in a definition on that.</p>

<p>The book/cover analogy is accurate in that sometimes you don't bother even reading the book if the cover looks drab or boring, thus missing out on a hidden treasure.</p>

<p>However, I often only become physically attracted to someone after I've gotten to know them. I guess attractiveness exists on two levels: there's the obvious, hotty-walking-down-the-street type, and there's the way you see a girl after you already know her as a person. Physical perception is influenced strongly by mentally associative factors, which is why the second variety is less superficial and far more meaningful than the first.</p>

<p>Appearance initiates the contact. Personality maintains the contact.</p>

<p>Looks are important, but not everything. I look at personalityabou 95% and looks 5%.</p>

<p>I like girls with a good sense of humor and a low-maintenance approach to life. I'm not going to waste my time on a princess. Looks only matter to the point that they have all their teeth and don't put on so much makeup that they look like an Old West hooker.</p>

<p>Well, I'm only in Junior High, but I think I have a very good outlook on women. I feel that a really nice looking girl can hold attention for a while but after a while a good guy (like me) will just want to talk honestly with a girl and I can't do that easily with a girl that is just pretty and will do whatever she is told by society to do. A girl's personality means a lot to me, and unless you are very mature, I can't really connect with you on that level. I look at a girl as a person, not an inanimate object that I like to see. I want to be able to share things with a girl, but if she isn't atleast a little similar to me I can't do that which is disappointing, especially when you feel every girl you meet is going to be that way. BTW, I fell in love before school got out, and three weeks into the summer about two hours before i had planned to tell the girl how I felt, she accidentally told me that she had oral sex with two other guys... so don't go sleeping around if you want a respectful man is the moral of the story</p>

<p>Like some have said, looks matter. I wouldn't be a with a girl that I wouldn't find physcially attractive in some way. </p>

<p>Everybody has their own definition of what is attractive and what isn't, so is very relative.</p>

<p>Looks are great, but I'll quickly lose interest if I'm dealing with a dolt.</p>

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<em>Sigh</em></p>

<p>Now see, why can't we have boys like that in CA?

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<p>We do. Lots. I know a lot of guys at my school that like girls and date them because they think they have great personalities. Physical attraction isn't something that matters too much in the long run, and there are plenty of guys I've met in CA that would rather have a girl they can talk to and have fun with than just make out with and do nothing else.</p>

<p>There are those that only care about the physical attraction, too. But, c'mon, they are teenage boys...Just because they live in CA doesn't mean that they are MORE interested in the girl's looks than someone that lives in, let's say, New York/.</p>

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For me a girl is attractive if she isnt hideous AND she is confident.

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I like how you mentioned confidence. I personally am attracted to confident guys, and I think most people would agree with me.</p>

<p>And, girls, we are the same way. Several people mentioned that looks get the person interested, and the personality keeps it that way. This idea that the other person has to be attractive isn't only in boys' mindset. Girls might have a great friend that they would love to date, if he was just that much more attractive. O_O Sounds weird, but i'm sure you get the pt</p>

<p>wxmann-hahaha you make me laugh</p>

<p>Oh, Optimization, I definitely agree. I think there has to be some level of attraction, as I said earlier. Otherwise you'll probably have a nice relationship, but it won't really be the same.</p>