<p>wow! what an ordeal! I’m so sorry to hear all you and your D have been through. I certainly would not like the idea of random online invites showing up at my D’s room let alone the drama from her first year. Hopefully with this new person moving into the towers room today it ends all of this for you. Is it a bed for bed swap or is she still 5th on the list? I’m hoping moving forward your D has a happy and successful year. My D had an interesting room mate freshmen year but no safety issues and since then has been with her best friend she met on her floor freshman year. I agree… there should be a penalty but not the full amount especially since you gave them ample time to house someone else. It’s not like you told them move in day she wasn’t living there. Wishing you and your D all the best. </p>
<p>Thanks @lefty1. Unfortunately she is still on the list. Our next step is to ask the school what room type are we being charged for since her spot in the double was given to someone. I’m sure there will be an appropriate answer. Anyway, my D is doing fine, had her scholarship reinstated from her bad semester and made dean’s list last year. It’s a good lesson learned. Her grandmother gave us $5,000 to help offset the unbudgeted cost and told our D that she needs to include us in these type of decisions going forward. My D feels horrible and responsible for the additional financial burden she has placed on us. I told her don’t worry about it. These things all have a way of working themselves out and that the money is not the most important thing in life. I also told her to focus on her goals and continuing her successes academically. </p>
<p>Sounds like your D is proceeding well and I wish her the best as well. It’s an interesting phase of life and provides great life lessons in a condensed form. I appreciate your thoughts and wish nothing but the best for you and your D. On a side note, this fall we became empty nesters which is an interesting phase of life but one we are looking forward to embracing.</p>
<p>Good luck and take care.</p>
<p>MRM001 You will never get UD to do the right thing in any situation, and they always win when it comes to money. And UD can’t be touched in DE. The RA’s, who are students themselves are ill equipped to do anything, and campus safety is worthless… funny how every student infraction is an “administrative issue”, but non-students get arrested. Getting your child off campus is really the only solution. The roommate and random men of advanced age happened with my daughter as well. </p>
<p>Thanks @airborne. I assume you are related to airborne service so thank you for that. My D’s boyfriend is airborne, in the guard, and I retired as of March 2001 from USAF. I appreciate your feedback as well as your service.
-mrm</p>
<p>@MRM001 Yes I am totally disabled paratrooper. The best to you and your D. and thank you for your service</p>