<p>Okay, so does anyone know the guest policy here at Rutgers? My roommate has this friend who has stayed for the past 3 nights in a row (she could have at least given me a heads up -- it was just out of the blue). It got to the point that the guest would stay in the dorm while my roommate and I were in class. I don't think the guest even goes here =</p>
<p>Now, I don't want to be a jerk, but it would have been nice to notify me. In addition, I didn't realize that people can stay over without being signed in. For some reason, it looks like anyone can just come inside of the dorm buildings throughout the day and just stay over as long as they like. And my RA sucks, so I'm not going to even ask him for advice at this point.</p>
<p>I kind of want to confront my roommate, but in a passive yet not too soft kind of way. But I fear I will create an animosity between us. 2 months seems like a long time to have any rift with the person you sleep with in the same room.</p>
<p>Sorry, I'm just having a bad week (more like a bad semester) and needed someone to confide in. Sorry if I come off sounding like a jerk =</p>
<p>You’ve helped me on here before, so I’ll give it my best shot to help you. I’m going to Rutgers next year and I was looking at the housing info, they state the guest policy right here:</p>
<p>[Rutgers</a> University Housing Residence Life](<a href=“http://housing.rutgers.edu/ie/?page=content/NewStudents/Undergraduate/PoliciesAndProcedures/Policies.php#guest]Rutgers”>http://housing.rutgers.edu/ie/?page=content/NewStudents/Undergraduate/PoliciesAndProcedures/Policies.php#guest)</p>
<p>I don’t know if that helps any but it’s a place to start I suppose.</p>
<p>No, that was helpful. Thank you =)</p>
<p>I don’t live on campus, but that’s really weird that they don’t even have to sign in. When I stayed with a friend at TCNJ, I had to sign in AND leave my license with them. They gave me a card to show them so I could come and go (although I still needed my friend to swipe into the building), but I didn’t get my ID back until I was leaving the next day.</p>
<p>I wish I could help. This is something I’m a bit afraid of when I get there. 
I had no idea people could even have others over for more than one night. Whether the guest is a girl or guy, it seems like a definate problem if someone is always coming around…I mean dorms are small enough already and no one needs a third person. I hope everything works out for you!</p>
<p>I might try to contact my RA about it tonight. But he’s not in his room. I just wish I were more confident in telling people how I feel. How can I explain to my roommate – with her friend still in the room at this moment as I type – about how I feel uncomfortable? It’s awkward. And then 2 against one (the girl is not too easy – I don’t know how to describe her without sounding like I’m offending).</p>