<p>Ok, I am a really shy person and I am in a class with about 80 people in it. However that is not the problem. I am like one of about 10 girls in the class. And everywhere I sit it is like I am surrounded by the opposite sex. What am I suppose to do?? How should I handle this.</p>
<p>Just relax and most importantly be yourself and confident of yourself. Don't let the guys get to you and if you act natural, you will be just fine with them. Make sure you participate in class and don't care about how you think others will perceive your questions (they probably had the same question anyway).</p>
<p>What's the problem with that? What's there to handle? I don't see how that's a problem, unless you have a hard time concentrating with guys around you. Those guys are simply taking a class like you. You'll be fine.</p>
<p>dude i go to a school that im one of 12 kids in my grade and im the only girl in my class so yah i have it worse then u....U WILL LIVE IF I DO!</p>
<p>Lol, I'm totally failing to see a problem. That sounds fun. Unless it's an engineering class or something (kidding, engineering boys. kinda).</p>
<p>But really. I don't really know what there is to deal with. Being shy doesn't have much to do with it, unless everyone around you is hitting on you a lot or something. Even then, accept the attention gracefully. Shy can be perceived as coy or as cold. </p>
<p>Go for coy.</p>
<p>Well does anyone know if engineering classes are hard. It seemed hard at first, however, now it seems really easy.</p>
<p>Lol..I'm sorry...wait. </p>
<p>It IS an engineering class?</p>
<p>I was totally kidding about that. </p>
<p>/So is this thread about the class itself or the people in the class? I'm thoroughly confused now.</p>
<p>well the thread I guess can be over now. I guess I will just give it my best.</p>
<p>No I'm just genuinely confused about what you're asking. Because if you're asking about how hard the class will be, it doesn't have a lot to do with being shy or being one of a few girls. But if you're asking about how to deal with being shy and one of a few girls, I didn't know how the difficulty of the class fit in with that. The social aspect and the academic aspect are somewhat mutually exclusive. </p>
<p>If you're asking about the social part, just be friendly and make an effort to engage in conversations with your neighbors if prompted. Being a girl doesn't make much of a difference. </p>
<p>Boys aren't nearly as frightening as they might seem (coming from someone who used to be painfully shy).</p>
<p>Well the thread was about the social aspect of the class. They said that students, if possible, should study together and help each other out. However, it is really hard to get to know someone in the class when you don't know anyone. Furthermore, mostly all the students in the class are old. Maybe sophomores and juniors. I usually keep to myself and only talk to those around my age group who are also freshman. They others in the class may get the course, however, I do not want to raise my hand and ask questions which others might think as dumb. </p>
<p>Anyways, I will just try to study on my own. If I needed help I guess I will just use the textbook website.</p>
<p>I definitely suggest making an effort to talk to the people who sit around you, even if it's just a question or something. It really will help you break out of your shell a little and will give you an in to possibly get to know them further, especially for studying. If the professor recommends studying as a group, it's probably for a reason. It will help you understand the course better and will also help your social life a little. Even if you only talk to one other person it'll make the class more enjoyable for you. </p>
<p>And no worries. Sophomores and Juniors ARE NOT OLD. Really. I have lots of friends who are both older and younger than me, and there aren't many differences. They probably won't even know you're a freshman unless you tell them.</p>
<p>thanks <em>allie</em></p>
<p>It'll be much easier getting help from boys, I think, that it would be in a class full of girls. All you'd have to do is smile and as someone said "play it coy" and I'm sure a couple would be happy to help you catch up with the class.</p>
<p>^^^Definitely.</p>
<p>Your first goal should be to not get distracted by those guys. I knew a guy who took sewing in HS and he got a B in the class since he was too busy looking at the girls to make his stuff right. (I think he took it for the ladies though)</p>
<p>But if you're one of these awesome people who can look past gender and befriend someone because they're a good person, don't be afraid of the guys. While there aren't many, there are in fact guys who love to have girls just as friends.</p>
<p>I'm a straight guy who has many close female friends and I actually like being with them more than I do guys sometimes--I've found them to be easier to talk to. You just might meet some of those guys.</p>
<p>I swear some people on this board grew up in a frickin' bubble.</p>
<p>Try not to stress at all!! I understand completely...for someone who is shy, being around mostly the opposite sex, especially when they are older, can be intimidating. But keep reminding yourself that everyone--regardless of sex--is there because they wanted to take the class. No one wants to make you look like an idiot, and any question you ask is probably something someone else was thinking. Never be afraid to ask questions. If you are really uncomfortable asking something specific, go to your professor's office hours and ask. You should NOT sacrifice knowledge because of a little shyness. </p>
<p>I used to be very shy around guys, and the best way to get over it is to simply take small steps in socializing with them. Strike up a conversation with the people next to you as often as possible, about anything--if you can think of absolutely nothing to talk about, mention something about the homework or an upcoming test. Then when it comes time to join a study group, you can just turn to someone you've been talking to and say, "Hey, can I join your study group?" Trust me...you'll be hard pressed to find someone who will say no!</p>