<p>Everyone knows about the open jerks who're obviously intentionally rude and want it to be known. My problem is that someone I've known for a while is starting to drop really mean hints and such. I just can't tell if it's done purposely (which I suspect), or if it's some sort of insensitive slip.</p>
<p>And since it's debatable whether they're actually trying to offend, it's not as if you can openly deal with it. But it's getting quite annoying.</p>
<p>Anyone? :D</p>
<p>punch him.</p>
<p>Respond as if you’re offended/confused and see how the ambiguously jerky person takes it.</p>
<p>I have a friend like this. I’m not sure…nevermind, I don’t even know what I,myself, think about it…</p>
<p>I will confess, I am one of these people. I am probably one of the biggest jerks ever. I don’t know why I do it, I just do. There are a lot of people that I would never even consider being a jerk around though (usually female), and I have really tried to act that same way to the rest of people too, and as I have gotten older I have gotten better at it. Almost everything I say is supposed to be taken extremely lightheartedly too, and it sometimes confuses me when it is not. I am still always trying to pick at people too (which is very obvious if you look at my posts), and it usually leads to a fight. I have a lot of problems with allowing people to feel they have won one of these fights and will go out of my way to make sure that for all of eternity you never feel you have won. Is it wrong? Yes. Am I trying to stop? Yes, and I hopefully will soon. My advice to you is to be as nice as you can to this person (or people), because if they are constantly mean to a really nice person they will begin to feel guilty and won’t be able to keep it up. If they do continue to make comments, take them as lightheartedly as possible, but if they really hurt show them. Make them feel bad and realize their actions. Best of luck!</p>
<p>Actually, I’m really good at mean jokes though I don’t just say 'em all out unless it’s with friends that I know will tell 'em back and aren’t offended. But if I know someone that’s a jerk for the sake of being a jerk and not really to be telling funny jokes then I just ease in on him/her. Like, there’s one guy like that at school who’ll just pick on anyone over anything so me and my friend will just screw with him constantly. It cuts him down a size, he’d tell women jokes but honestly I know better ones so I’d tell the better ones, call him a girl, call him short (cause he really is), make fun of his beard, all that.</p>