This is now my 3rd post about this. I have had numerous noise problems with 4 out of my 5 suite mates in my on-campus apartment. On the weekdays, especially when they are sober, the noise level has toned down enough to sleep, but on the weekends, it is absolutely unbearable. Most weekend nights that they stay in (sometimes they go to a bar) consist of them going to a nearby liquor store, buying all the alcohol they can afford, drinking it as fast as they can, and acting like complete lunatics for the rest of the night: slamming doors, throwing things (thankfully non breakable), running up and down the halls, and making the walls in the entire apartment shake from the noise. One of their friends who is a girl also comes over, but she is certainly not as loud and destructive as they are. It makes my blood boil to have to deal with this nonsense at my age. Last night, they were so out of control, I was getting ready to call the RA and also possibly the police, but I was afraid I would get in trouble for the alcohol also since it is a dry suite, so I didn’t. They eventually all passed out at around 2am. I have decided I am done dealing with this insanity on the weekends. I wouldn’t mind them drinking, even getting drunk, in the apartment if they didn’t get out of control like this and could still be relatively quiet, but with them, that is impossible. I also drink myself an average of once every 2-3 weeks, but I have actually never been wasted (only buzzed several times and mildly drunk once) so I do not get out of control like this. I want my apartment to be like my home, where I can relax and unwind and not have to deal with juvenile nonsense like this. Last night, it was so bad, they broke the handle to the sink and now it cannot be used and a work order had to be put in to get it fixed. Based on my post, do you think there is any way I can ask them somehow to stop behaving like this in the apartment and go someplace else, or am I better off going right to the RA? Moving out is not an option, but I am really at my wit’s end with them. They are good roommates besides this, but as you can tell, this is a major thing. On nights they go out to drink, I text one of them asking them to come in quietly, and they comply. It is when they are in the apartment that it is an issue, and I usually never bother asking them to be quiet because I feel it is not my place and that I would be “ruining their fun.”
“this is a major thing.”
Yes, this is definitely a major thing. My first reaction is that you need to find a different place to live. To do this I think that you need to first go straight to the RA. The RA has a responsibility to at least know who to talk to next. This is a big problem and you need to find a better situation. However, you are not the first student at university to have this problem and the university should know how to deal with it.
One thing that puzzles me: If your suite mates are freshmen, then how are they old enough to go to a bar? On the other hand, if they are not freshmen, then how have they avoided flunking out of university before now?
I might add: I don’t expect that you can on your own get your suite mates to behave better. You need to get the university involved and your RA is the place to start.
Go to your RA. Ask if you can move at the end of the semester. This doesn’t sound negotiable to me.
No, they are juniors. Which makes you think they would be out of this phase by now. Also, I like it better when they go other places, because in that case, I text one of them asking them to please come in quietly and they always comply. It is when they stay in and get wasted that it is an issue because I never leave my bedroom to ask them to please calm down.
Just tell them to shut up. It doesn’t matter if it’s the weekend, it ought to be common courtesy to keep it down when people are trying to sleep or study.
My awful roommate last semester would have his frat friends over on weekends and be up at 1-3 in the morning literally SCREAMING everything they said. And half the time they weren’t even drunk, they were just that obnoxious.
And you know what I would do?
I would leave my room, bang on his door, and as soon as he answered I would tell them all to shut the **** up. And they would.
But also, you have the chance to do what I should have done and MOVE OUT for next semester, which I would try to do if I were you. Living on campus is too expensive to deal with crap like that.
Why is moving not an option? You are outnumbered here…no winning. You need to move. You and your roommates just aren’t a match.
I agree that you need to get out. If you have posted three times, the problem isn’t getting better. None of us here can do anything about it. It’s time for you to be proactvie and find a resolution to your situation. Go to res life and put in a request for new housing asap. Your roommates are inconsiderate jerks, especially if you are supposed to be in a dry house, but you are outnumbered. It’s your problem now.
You said it was supposed to be a dry suite. Report it to the RA.
@jamsbrother during the week mine don’t get drunk either, and I do have to say that it is not nearly as bad now during the week as it once was. It’s really bad on the weekends and triple the normal when they are plastered, which they are quite a lot.
Video tape them and show the video to your RA.
How to solve roommate problems:
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Think about the reasonableness of your request. Not having the dorm destroyed is reasonable. What are the quiet hours in your dorm? People not being loud at 2:00am is resonable.
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Take steps to ameliorate the situation yourself. Not sure what you really can do. Earplugs?
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Discuss issue with Roommate. Seems like you have asked them to be quiet on a onsey twosie basis but you really need to say that you are having an issue with all the noise when they are drinking in the suite That if they want to drink outside the suite that is their business, but the continual craziness has to go.
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See if roommates are compromising…They do seem to be quieter when you ask.
5)Think about what you want to the end result to be…that works for all of you. For example: Quiet after midnight…no destroying property, no excess alcohol.
- Go to RA. State the issue, state that you have talked to roommates (because they will ask), state that you have tried other steps (if you have) and ask for help in resolving the situation. “RA, I would like to get your advice on figuring out a resolution to an issue I am having with my roommates. .”
Most likely they will come up with a roommate contract for you all to sign.
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Follow the contract…and if your roommate doesn’t, then go back to the RA. If your roommate retaliates, go back to the RA.
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If RA doesn’t follow through or is useless, see if there is a different RA in your building. If not, go to the Housing office. Explain you have gone through the “chain of command”…that is, you talked to your roommate and then the RA but the issue still exists and it is preventing you from sleeping.
If you don’t want to discuss the alcohol, you can still say that they are slamming doors, throwing things (thankfully non breakable), running up and down the halls, and making the walls in the entire apartment shake from the noise.