<p>mythmom-</p>
<p>I get your point about meeting the kid’s needs, and agree with getting that fit right.</p>
<p>I just think there are many schools that can meet an individual kid’s needs, so if Wheaton was really “needed” but it would cost “Columbia” money ~ 50k per year I’d want there to be other Wheaton-like schools on the list where it’d be probable that the kid would be awarded merit money. </p>
<p>Then when it came down to her decision - say, Wheaton at $50k net vs. Beloit at $30k net - I’d want to have some discussion about the schools that was much more than “but the only school that will work is Wheaton.” </p>
<p>After all, we need to love our financial safeties, too :-)</p>
<p>Kei</p>
<p>P.S. That said, I’m not sure where we will end up . . it is a process.</p>