<p>I'm a sophomore girl! This is my first time living on campus. My freshman year, I commuted. I like living there. I just wish I could make more friends. My roommate is nice, and sometimes she will talk a lot, but she's also quiet like me. Other suite mates are pretty nice as well. I just feel sort of lonely sometimes, and I'm not really sure why! Sometimes I enjoy being by myself. Other times I see other people with their groups of friends and then I wish I had someone to talk to (while eating lunch for example), but by the time I actually sit and talk with that person, I'd rather just be by myself again. The other day, I saw my roommate and suite mate eating together and I...I don't know, I just didn't want to go and sit with them! But when I looked up, roommate waved and said "Sit over here." Then she told my suite mate that I was right behind them. After we ate, I walked away from them to throw away my trash and left. Also, my roommate and her bf were eating together, I saw them and waved and after getting my food was about to leave when roommate asked where I was going. I sat with them, but I would have rather been by myself! I was by myself in my dorm room the other day and started feeling lonely. I come across as shy around new people. Why is that? I'm in one club right now (an academic honor society). Maybe I could make friends with those people? I mean, school just started! I would like some suggestions.</p>
<p>Find more clubs and organizations to get involved in. Try some that relate to your interests but don’t be afraid to try other things. They make college life a lot more enjoyable and are almost guaranteed to make you some new friends. Having friends in more places than just your dorm also gives you a social “second universe” on campus to escape from the dorm drama.</p>
<p>Also, don’t be afraid to try to make friends in your classes.</p>
<p>Well, your roommate is reaching out to you when she sees you alone, which is very nice of her. Don’t turn her down often, or she will reach out to you less and less. You can have alone time very easily if you want by avoiding busy places. If you really want to be alone during lunch, then keep a small fridge with some food in your room, and eat there, or take a walk on your own. But, think carefully about doing so too often. This is the time when people are mixing and meeting, and trying to build friendships. If you stay to yourself, it will be much harder to find friends later, and you will be thought of as a person who wants to be alone. THAT will be very lonely!</p>