how can I overcome my shy and be more talkative?

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<p>So this is my story. 4 years ago, when I was a freshman in high school. I was able to make a lot of friends, I was able to overcome my shy and have fun everyday with my friend. They even called me I am their best friend and love me a lot blah blah. however, 1 year later. I move to a different state, they never contact me anymore and never reply my messages. I feel being betrayed. I feel they are just a bunch of selfish people. So, for the rest of my years in my new high school. I feel I can't trust people, so I didn't make any new friends for the rest of my high school life. So, at my graduation I was alone and realized I need some friends to have some friends to have some memories in my student life. But somehow this is impossible for myself. </p>

<p>So this is my first year at a community college. I joined a club, everyone was friendly. But somehow I still can't have myself into this club. I feel being outside of this club. I don't know what I should do. I still afraid one they will be another bunch of selfish people and one day will leave me again. I am not sure If I can make any real friends for my college life. I don't know how to overcome my shy and be active in this club. So, at the club meeting today. I was not have any discussions in my club. So they called me quiet. I don't know what i should do. please give me some advice.</p>

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<p>Stick with it. Friendships build over time. For people like me it isn’t easy, but don’t just give up because it isn’t going at the pace you want.</p>

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<p>You have to think about it from a psychology viewpoint. Like the class clowns are only being outgoing to get attention. And if you just think that everybody else is shy that will help cause most people are. But if you are a quiet person then you will get along with quiet people more then trying to fit in with rowdy people. But my mom says the best thing is just to be yourself. I think she says that tho cause I try to show off and do stupid stuff. But people will like you more if you are yourself and normal.</p>