How close are you with your friends?

its been a long time since 2017, They never answer my calls or respond to my text messages ever since I met them in 2014. Maybe I made a mistake for attending Harvesters then. They only message me when I make them uncomfortable or for being aggressive for not answering my calls or responding to my text and then they just tell me they’re busy as an excuse not to hang out with me. After they ignore my calls or text messages for a long time, they contact me and say rude and harsh things to me. I don’t say rude and harsh things to them. They don’t say anything to me in person or contact me unless I say something, call and text them first. They’re just so lazy. another friend from my church on instagram said that close friends answer your calls quickly. She told me I never spend time with them and Im not close to them. they telling me they’re busy and making dumb excuses not to hang out with me and they just ignore until I get irritated. I think they’re just testing my nerve or something. Every time I go home from church, they start hanging out and doing things together. They never ask me if I want to hang out with them. Just because we live in different cities doesn’t meant they can’t come pick me up. They live in Raleigh and I live in Cary. I realized they’re a bunch of selfish cliquey people

Do your friends ever done this to you?