<p>So yeah, I applied to Rutgers NB without telling my father and got accepted. My Dad is extremely involved in my life and is pretty overbearing but I have not had the guts to tell him I am leaving this small school.
My finals are over in a week and I will see him face to face. Face-To-Face he is not too intimidating since hes about 5'2 and im 6'0 LOL. But I just don't want to let him down since this will be my SECOND time transferring. However this will be to the same school I went to LAST year.</p>
<p>I just haven't been able to fit in at this small midwest school. It is not for me, I am pretty depressed all the time and it really affects my concentration. I already have friends at NB and am already looking at houses near campus. I would have to change my major AGAIN, but still engineering.</p>
<p>My father is expecting me to get an apartment around town and he thinks everything is fine. I told him how I felt over winter break and he almost popped a vein in his head he was so angry. He is a very sour man.
How can I convince him that this decision is the right one.</p>
<p>If you’re convinced this is the right choice for you then its not about convincing your father that it’s a good idea for you to go back to a school you probably already messed up at. Just tell him that you applied to rutgers and got accepted and that you’re going because you think you’ll do better. Even if something happens and you can’t go you can always reapply next semester or year.</p>
<p>I faced the same situation. But honestly, like Ripetomato43 said, I simply asked myself whether it’s the right choice for me. And since I can’t see myself staying for two more years at my current school, I decided that it is. Your parents should understand that you are an adult now. </p>
<p>How are you paying for school? Can your parents afford Rutgers or were they borrowing heavily to pay for it? What state do you live in (will you be OOS for Rutgers)? The crucial information here, for a parent, is that you’ve been depressed and it’s affecting your concentration. Lead with that. Explain that you took steps to make positive changes by applying to another school (have you applied for financial aid or are you full pay?), and you’ve been investigating housing as well. Why was your dad so upset over winter break?</p>
<p>Well he probably wanted you to stay at the first school, when you transferred, so maybe he won’t be so upset? You made a mistake transferring, and now you want to correct the mistake. After some time, I am sure he will see it’s not a big deal. You got in so that’s great!</p>
<p>And talk to him get it over with, you are gonna have to sooner or later right?</p>