How do I find a roommate if I'm shy?

I went to a high school where everyone was short (girls were between 4’8-5’3 and boys were around 5’6). Additionally, everyone dressed so casually and we never made a big deal about our appearance, outfits, makeup, etc.

However, in my college, I feel like a baby. Everyone dresses so maturely and looks way older and taller than me (the funny thing is I’m probably one of the oldest students in my grade). I’m currently looking for a roommate for sophomore year, but I feel uncomfortable posting pictures of myself when I see all these girls dressed so beautifully, posing in bikinis at the beach, taking fun pics, etc. Additionally, the girls who are advertising for roommates look like people who wouldn’t want me to be their roommate (most of them are party girls and I’m at college to study hard). What’s the best way for people like me to find roommates? What websites should I use? I don’t use social media, but I’m willing to create an FB if necessary.

A little mom advice here. It may seem that way, but “your people” are out there, just maybe quietly staying in their rooms as well. D20 had to create an account for the same purpose; she found her current roommate and their roommates for next year by being honest. She posted pics of herself with her favorite fandom regalia. She just put herself out there “as is,” a very studious engineering major who loves Marvel, D&D and Broadway musicals. She goes to a southern flagship, so believe me I get it. Did she get 50 responses, no, but the ones she did get were genuinely good fits who had the same interests. You do you.

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@Tigerwife92 Thank you for your advice! Do you recommend that I post pictures of myself? Is it okay if I don’t?

Perhaps someone with more social media presence could weigh in, but posts with pics tend to get noticed more. You could try without first and see.

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Why aren’t you checking the housing office? You can ask to be matched to someone.

Your peeps are out there. Yes, post pictures of yourself. Don’t compare to others. Also don’t judge a book by its cover as they say. One of those girls might make a great roommate. Most colleges have a housing office that matches students
My son did this at college and found roommates with no problem. Also if your part of a major like engineering) or a club you can post something there.

In your age group some form of social media seems to be the norm. You might want to start some form of it. It might make your journey easier. You can also cancel it at some point if it’s not your thing.

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