How do I get past this?

Pre-College Issues High School Life
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<p>I have a “friend,” who, quite frankly, I hate. She’s rude to me (and everyone else in general), and sometimes I swear she’s purposely trying to make me feel bad by saying stuff like “You’re rank’s going to drop” and “Ha, I beat you” and “Wow, I don’t see how you’re going to raise your average after that.” She constantly asks me about my grades too, and she has my ID memorized so she can check my test grades for the classes that they are publicly posted in. I mean, seriously?! We’ve been friends forever, but I honestly can’t stand her.</p>

<p>The thing is, I’m currently salutatorian to her #4, but I know that I won’t be by the end of this semester (screwed myself over in two classes). Chances are, she’s going to be the one to take my spot, and it’s driving me crazy. I’m not obsessive about ranks most of time. Honestly, I’m not. My friend’s (the ones I actually like) have labeled me “that slacker” and “[insert city]’s most retarded sal,” and I wouldn’t care if it was #3 or #5 beating me (I’m friends with both of them too). Our entire “friendship” seems to be based on one-uping the other, and it’s just killing me inside that she’s going to be able to gloat and rub it in my face (and trust me she will… she constantly brought up being #4 for a week before she finally found out that I was #2).</p>

<p>This whole thing sounds horrible and dumb, I know, but ugh… anyone else understand why I feel this way?</p>

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<p>Beat her and rub it in her face. That's what I would do. It's not like you'll be seeing her after graduation anyways.</p>

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<p>Why even talk to her anymore, I am serious about that....</p>

<p>If she goes around bragging about her ranking, people will get real tired real quick, and after graduation, believe me, that ranking means didly squat</p>

<p>So here is what you do:</p>

<p>1- Do not talk to this girl or anyone else at all about tests, grades, ranking- if someone brings it up, don't get sucked into the conversation</p>

<p>2- focus on college, and planning for that and how much fun it will be</p>

<p>3- find something to do this summer</p>

<p>4- DROP THIS GIRL from your social circle, why have someone toxic in your life- how are you friends anyway?</p>

<p>5- If she tries to rub it in your face, just go, yeah, cool, but don't feed into her behavior</p>

<p>Remember her power is only there if you let it be, so if you have to just avoid her</p>

<p>And also remember, in the big scheme of life, this is soooo petty to be meaningless</p>

<p>So, what college are you going to anyway!!!???</p>

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<p>And I do understand the feelings, but why let her have that power over how you feel</p>

<p>Here is a trick, everytime you think about her, do ten jumping jacks, or put a rubber band on your wrist and snap it, you are fixating too much on someone who is just a mean little person, and you have let her have power of you...think of her as a bully, why be friends with a bully, and your cirlce of friends, well, they seem kind of mean as well</p>

<p>so what she gets 2nd, no one likes her, she is obnoxious, and rude</p>

<p>the day after graduation, # 2 in the class means nada, zilch, and until then, just ignore her, she aint' worth your energy</p>

<p>read the book queen bees and wannabees, this clique is like a mean girls clique, but based on "status" of ranking</p>

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<p>You know what - if she does end up ahead of you just smile and say 'congratulations' (however much your blood is boiling!!!) Be the better person. Especially if she does it in front of other people - you will look gracious and as if it really does not bother you - she will look like a braggy brat. Then concentrate on your real friends. This will seem so unimportant a few months down the road - don't let it spoil the excitement of graduating.</p>

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<p>Thanks for the advice.</p>

<p>I'll try what both of you suggested... mainly the focus on other things and being gracious. And we're friends mainly because we were close in fourth grade. But people change I guess. Both of us.</p>

<p>It's a little early for me to be applying to colleges or graduating. ;)</p>

<p>And my other friends, don't get me wrong. They're really nice. We tease each other a lot, and I know they don't mean any harm by it. Besides, I kinda have it coming with all the blonde remarks I make. :p</p>

<p>Yeah, but thank you again. :)</p>

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<p>early for college? what grade are you in?
a lot can still change...</p>

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<p>I'm a freshman. Yeah, I know... makes it sound even stupider since it's so early on. But, I guess I'll have to try again and work harder next year.</p>

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<p>it actually makes it sound worse. it's definitely not worth staying friends with her.
I'd be trying to get my ID changed too.</p>

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<p>I dunno... I don't really want to stay friends with her, but I'm not sure how I'm supposed to drop her either without being rude or saying something mean. I usually just avoid her because... well... it's kinda hard to unfriend someone and still be nice? I never tried before though, so who knows. :p</p>

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<p>You're a freshman and you're already worrying about this? oO</p>

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<p>distance yourself from the girl. She's not worth your time and trust me, if you don't do it now, chances are this will continue to bubble up and end in one enormous explosion.</p>

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<p>You are guys aren't even really friends, just ignore her when she's being a braggart. Dropping her doesn't mean you have to stop being nice, you can still be polite around her.</p>

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<p>She sounds like an a**... Dude just make new friends, who will not complete all the time against you
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All of my close friends are not top of the class (they are in the middle) cuz we are not completing against each other for rank and test scores. I dont really like talking to ppl who are like in the 10% cuz almost all they talk about are academics related. Sorry if i offended anyone... thats what has been my experience with the 10%. I really used to be up there (rank wise) but rank is just a number :p.</p>

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<p>She's not your friend. Sorry, this is obvious. You're not breaking a friendship. You're with a "frenemy" (watch mean girls, seriously).</p>

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<p>Haha "frenemy." Good word. The girl like that at my school always goes "This is my answer...oh urs is different...mine's probably wrong" when she really means "You dumbass, you've obviously screwed up, I'm right" and then when I turn out to be right she mumbles something about hating me, then laughs and says "Just kidding! You know I love you!"</p>